Feeling lost and confused

I’ve never done this before but I lost my great grandad 4 months ago and I thought I had come to terms with it, he got to 100 years old and he was married to my nanny for 81 years, she is now in a Carehome and their house has just sold , I really struggled with the thought of them not being in their house , it may sound silly but I had so many happy memories of them in their home, their home was always filled with love and smiles and now their home just feels like a house!! I came across their phone number in my phone today and I just cried knowing I can’t call up the home and they answer, I know my Great nanny is still with me but I can’t think of her without him by her side. All this grief brings back memories of when I lost my Nanny 14 years ago! I was very young and in ways I feel as though I haven’t gotten over her loss either, I feel so confused all the time!!! :((

Hello @Lleyton,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your great-grandad that brings you here. It doesn’t sound silly at all - I think many of our members will identify with your feelings of a home becoming a house when people we love are no longer living there. Dealing with the loss of your grandparent or great-grandparent can also make you feel as if you are losing your connection to your childhood and the memories you share with them.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

You might also find our death of a grandparent support page helpful to read.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


Thank you Seaneen, this means a lot, its just become very difficult for me to deal with right now, I hid my feelings away, threw myself into work and ignored them and now they are coming through and I feel as though I’m so confused on how to feel.