Hi to all. Couple of years ago I lost my Mum unexpectedly before Christmas 22. Then in the new year a brother died through his breast cancer without warning. In the July my father died from his breast cancer and to finish off his partner died a couple of days later of her cancer. That 7 months have effected me completely since. I’ve had to take sick retirement from work even though I’m now only 53. I must admit I do feel completely lost. Tearful over seeing death in the news or even reading about it. I cry over letters my mum wrote to me as a 7 year old when she spent a lot of time in Great Ormond street Hospital with a dying baby sister. I feel like that 7 year old missing his mothers touch. My brother I miss because we were liked similar things and the friendship brotherhood brings. With my father it was the cherry on the cake of depression. Just as I was forging a relationship with him again after many years he gave up on his treatment. I just think sometimes what is the point and then I feel guilty and selfish. When you hear about families in Palestine losing 10 family members and there’s me bemoaning 3. They unfairly died what is my value! Im nothing special just ordinary talking up valuable space. I’m not a scientist or hero a nothing. How do other people feel?
Hello @Doinky72,
Thank you for reaching out. I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum, dad and brother - that is an awful lot to cope with. It’s completely understandable you’re feeling so lost. Your losses are real and important, and you deserve care and support.
You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category, but you will find lots of support there.
As well as the community, if you think it could be helpful to talk to someone, you may want to consider bereavement counselling. Your GP can help you access this. You can also contact Cruse in West Sussex on westsussexarea@cruse.org.uk, or by calling 0300 311 9959. The AtALoss website lists more support available in West Sussex here.
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care,
Seaneen