Feeling lost and lonely after husbands sudden death

Losing a partner
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What a cute little face he has.

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Hi All
My first post, I lost my husband 9 weeks ago, I feel very lost & lonely. It helps to see Iā€™m not alone in feeling this way

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@Daisy17 l have found a lot of comfort in reading posts from others and that feeling that everything we are experiencing is normal for where we are in our lives. Not sure it will ever get easier but we learn to live with these feelings

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Dear Daisy,

I am so very sorry for your loss. My husband died almost 5 months ago, and I can say that getting out of the house and seeing people has been a great help, if you can. Of course, when Iā€™m home it often comes flooding back and there are a lot of tough moments - today was hard because I went to pick up a document related to his death and I was on my own and that was very tough, especially because I hadnā€™t anticipated that it would be. But later on, my friends were very understanding and that was a comfort. The only good thing is that, although it doenā€™t go away, you can get absorbed in other stuff and that helps. I do think that our job at this time is to look after ourselves. Otherwise we canā€™t be there for other prople who need us.
I hope some of that helps. Thinking of you xxx

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I do keep myself busy & have wonderful family & friends, but itā€™s so lonely going home to an empty house

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you are not alone.8 weeks for me and its so painful and tough.x

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It is so hard, Iā€™ve looked after my grandchildren today, I love them so much, but Iā€™ve had to nip off & cry. Its hard to see a way forward do you feel the same ?

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I do understand. The pain hits, often unexpectedly, and you just have to find a place for a little quiet cry. Sometimes I manage to imagine I am putting my feelings in a beautiful box that I will open later when I am alone, but it doesnā€™t always work. Sometimes swearing horribly in a whisper works! It lets me keep the smile on my face, more or less ā€¦ But I do know how hard it is. I was told this morning ā€œyou can just cry if you need toā€ by the gym instructor (stomach exercises set me off, not sure why) , but I know it will disturb the class, so I do my best not to, or just go to the loo or leave. And you canā€™t just leave your grandchildren. Itā€™s so hard at times, like being stabbed. I feel for you.