Feeling lost

I was looking after my dad daily, he had pancreatic cancer and was getting more poorly but then he developed sepsis. I really thought we had more time together. He passed away on Friday and I miss him so much. I miss looking after him. I thought I wanted more time to myself but now I’ve got all the time in the world and all I want to do is to look after him again. I feel guilty for all the times I could of seen him (if I had an opportunity to not go) and didn’t.

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Hello @Helen17,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your dad that brings you here.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

You might also wish to read our Losing a parent support page - it talks about some of the feelings you’re describing and you might find it helps you to feel less alone.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Seaneen

Helen
I lost my mum at the end of December suddenly and at times could have seen her more to but she knew that I worked and had my son (his activities take over) but we had many other happy times together and talked on the phone. Don’t be so hard on yourself this is a difficult time as it is and I am sure everyone can say what it. Remember the good times.

Take care :sparkling_heart:
Valda

Thank you so much for taking the time to write your message, it really means a lot and it makes sense reading it. I too have two primary school boys and worked and the spare time I had I did spend it with my dad. Thank you for giving me clarity and some peace :heart:

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