I have been poorly all for 4 days now just getting better but that was a time when i needed paul he was always there for me when i was poorly but now i have nobody and have to try and cope with it but i am not coping at all , all i wanted was him to give me a cuddle and make me feel better i miss him so much its been nearly 5years this september and i still feel like this i dont want people to tell me it get better because i do not believe that at all
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Hi sassychic,
I hope you are feeling a little better. We do tend to miss are loved one even more when we need some t & c. Please look after yourself.
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Thank you i am trying all i want to do is sleep when paulnwas here i usedvto get the quilt of our bed and take it into the living room and put it on the settee so as i would be near him now no room give me any comfort as he is not there
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Good afternoon Sassychic
I am sorry to hear you have not been feel well. Its bad enough feeling unwell when we are in a strong mental state but when in deep grief then that makes everything so much harder and the body itself is a lot weaker. I hope you feel better today. Today is week 6 since I lost Sally and I seem to be going up and down and also feeling very lost a lot of the time. If you need to chat at any time just let me know. I have found that talking to people who have suffered the loss of a partner helps in some small way because all of us on this platform understand each other and are going through the same emotional upheaval so we all understand each other.
Big hugs to you
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Thank you for the hugs i am sorry for your loss i wish i còuld tell you it get better but i cannot my husband passed away 5 years ago in sept 1st so i have a anniversary coming up which makes everything harder i just wish i could go back to being strong everybody tells me i am strong but i have not been that strong woman i was when paul was here i cannot stand up for myself i let people walk over me and talk down to me when paul was alive i would never let anybody talk to paul like that but when it is me i cannot do it i feel so lost in all of this my purpose that i had in life has gone so what do i do
Sarah
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Hello, I think when you’ve got your partner in your corner it’s easy to stand up for yourself as you know it’s not just you, it’s the two of you, but when your alone you feel really vulnerable & naked if you get what I mean & a little scared of confrontation as you know you have no back up.
However all that been said, I blame the person who confronts us, but like bullying so shame on the,.
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