My sister told me she had cancer 6weeks ago and passed away 6 days later,I’m really struggling with her not telling me earlier, can’t get my head around it
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Sorry to hear about your sister. Did you ask her why she didn’t tell you sooner?
To be honest, I can now see why people don’t always share their diagnosis. My husband has cancer (terminal) and every day involves talking about it, every conversation with friends includes the cancer somehow. I’d imagine some people simply don’t want it to take over their lives (and their loved ones) x
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Hello, it could be that she’d found out late herself or she just couldn’t find the words to tell you, I can’t imagine how difficult that conversation would have been for her, she obviously loved you & didn’t want to see you upset
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My sister couldn’t speak when I got to see her and I can’t ask her husband as he is struggling to cope and I don’t want to put more pressure on him
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She found out in may,it was breast cancer which spread very quickly lymph nodes,spine etc ,just wish she had told me in may ,I get she was trying to protect me but I really can’t get my head around it all
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The main thing is to not take it personally. She had her reasons and I’d imagine they came from a good place. I’m so sorry for your loss. Cancer is an absolute f@cker
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Many moons ago I found out my mum had cancer even though she’d told me it was arthritis, it took me a long time to make sense of it, it must be incredibly difficult to cope with the news yourself & maybe just not know how to tell your nearest & treasured loved ones this news, I feel she was trying to protect you from pain as long as she could.
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Think you are probably right but it doesn’t make it any easier,if she had told me in May I would have had 5 months to get my head around it instead of 6days
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