I hope you were all able to manage getting through the festive season. I can imagine it has been difficult for the majority of us.
I just about managed to get through my first Christmas without my mum. Today has been an awful day for me. I feel empty and hopeless. Although I have a lovely supportive husband I am feeling what is the point of life. No idea what to do with myself and the rest of my life! I am at a standstill.
There is such a lot going on right now and do not feel able to cope. I will be leaving the family home that I have shared with my mum and moving in January. I have lots of packing to do and arrange a removal van. Then I have to unpack, once we have moved. I had to let a friend go. She ignored me at Xmas lunch get together, merely coz I went inside without waiting for her to park!! I was not feeling well, and it was the anniversary of mum’s passing 10 months and I wanted to get inside out of the cold and rain. I just feel like I do not want to go on everything seems to much. Then when I look on social media seeing families having what looks like the perfect Christmas I feel really sad that all my husband I have is each other. Although I know it is good to have each other.
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Hi @Shelly2 I can relate. My mum passed away recently and this was my first Christmas without her. I also only have my husband, no other close family, so it’s just me and him and I feel so lonely without my mum. I know I’m glad to have him, but my world seems so small now. Like you, I see all the posts on social media of friends with all their family, and it just makes me feel so much more alone. It seems so unfair. Most my friends still have both parents, and some still have grandparents, whereas I don’t have any. I can also relate to feeling empty and hopeless, and like you don’t know what to do with your life. It makes you reassess things and think what is the point, and where am I going. It’s so tough, so difficult, and so sad to be without them. I’ve also got to sort out my mum’s house, so lots to do. It’s just an extra mental load when you’re already so drained from losing your parent and grieving so much. Sorry things are hard for you too. I really hope they get easier for us, even if the sadness always remains xx
Thank you for your response.
It is good to hear from you and to know that I am not alone in feeling this way.
I really feel for you, as I can imagine how you feel in being lonely without mum. I dont know if it is similar for you? We lived with my mum and have lived here prior to meeting my husband. Mum was part of my everyday life. I was also her carer. Like yourself my dad and both sets of grand parents are no longer here either. Definitely looking at social media does heighten the feeling on loneliness and not having mum around. As you said you see all these happy families at Christmas and it makes you more aware of how along we feel.
The feelings of hopelessness and what is the point of going on are so at the forefront of how I am feeling. I think we both have to try and be kind to ourselves, by doing things that nurture us and may be not look at social media for a a while. The thought of having to pack up and leave and move into another home on top of the heartbreak and loss we are enduring is so hard. I am truly sorry you are going through all this and for the loss of your lovely mum. One thing we can be thankful for is that we have our husbands by our side.
Thank you for your message and support. Please do keep in touch.
Best Wishes xxx