Hi
I lost my husband nearly a month ago now we were married for 25 years
The grief I am feeling is making me mentally and physically really poorly
My whole body aches sometimes just getting out of bed is really hard work
I am having palpitions especially on night
My temperature is up and down
The past few days I have woke up wanting to vomit
The headaches are really bad
I spoke to the doctor she said is all symptons of grieving
Has anybody else suffered this way?
Thankyou
Marie x
I just feel as though there is a heavy weight pressing down on my chest all the time. I also feel exhausted all of the time.
Hi Marie,
My beloved partner died 7 weeks ago and I have since had terrible palpitations. They really scare me at times but I’m fairly sure it is stress and grief. I also find my throat closes up sometimes when I try and eat and I just feel exhausted all the time - even when I sleep ok, which is not often.
Hugs.
Hi
I’m sorry for your loss
It’s just never ending
I think for myself it’s the night time when I try to switch off it’s very scary
Marie x
Hi Jules
Its the same with me
I try to keep busy during the day but then sometimes I feel to ill to be getting on with stuff so I just sit in my room
Take care
Marie x
@Dotty666 hi dotty I feel exhausted and tired all the time yet when I go to bed I can’t sleep my stomach hurts as soon as I start to eat I keep on getting chest pain my ocd is getting worse and I feel like I can’t cope but I have to I think its all symptoms of the grief
Dear @Dotty666 . Its 13 months since my beloved husband passed away after battling pancreatic cancer. He tried so hard to stay with us. He had stage 4 but managed 3 years, amazingly so. Of course it was tough when 2 weeks before he passed he was told that the chemo wasn’t working any more and he went downhill very quickly . It was excruciating to watch him but at least he got his wish to die at home . After his funeral I took very ill and had pneumonia, I too suffer from palpitations, but was well controlled for years, they came back with a vengeance. I was hospitalised and to thankfully managed to calm my ticker down. My body just couldn’t cope with the distress and grief. I still don’t have the energy to do much and take a day at a time. So yes, grief can make you ill. Try to be kind to yourself, eat little and often and try to rest. I wish you all the best and take care. Margarita
I used to be remarkably energic. I could go to bed at 4am and be up for work at 7am no problem. I never felt tired and my mind was always planning new ideas for my house.
Since my Ron died in 2018 I have lost interest in my home. I sleep until at least 11am every morning and I feel exhausted at completing the simplest tasks. I have had throat problems for 18 months and I find everything hard work. I am sure it is all systematic of grief but I just long to feel myself again instead of this lethargic person who just wants to get through my life as quickly as possible.
Hi Angie
I’m sorry for your loss
Aww bless you sounds like you are really run down it has been quite a while aswell
I can relate totally I always had lots of energy too
Before I even got to bed I was planning the next day meals and Every thing
Now I think what’s the point
Take care
Marie x
Hi,
I also have strong palpitations when I go to bed at night. I’m not feeling too great lately. It’s been almost 2 years since my husband died and I think it’s just catching up with me. I didn’t cry much to begin with but now I cry every day, It’s as though I’ve suddenly realised he’s never coming back. I have also been overly obsessing on how I look.
Hope you’re OK this evening.
Heather x
Hi Heather
Sorry for your loss
The palpitations are really scary I take betablockers from the doctor they do work . Maybe try them
Hope you don’t mind me asking what do you mean you are overly obsessing about how you look ?
I think I’m doing the same
You can PM if you want to chat
Marie xx
Hi I’ve found the grieving process to be so intense it’s like riding a tidal wave of emotions. It’s left me feeling completely drained and I feel like the stuffing has been knocked out of me. Everything is an effort and I’m not motivated to do anything. I’ve cried so much that now when I cry my throat hurts and almost feels like it’s closing up. I’m suffering from anxiety about the future and this has caused me to have stomach issues. I also don’t have any appetite. I force myself to eat but take little pleasure in food or for that matter in anything. It’s all a big struggle.