I lost my partner,my best friend/soul mate 8 weeks ago now. We were together for 18 years. I feel very sad and empty. How do you even look forward after something like this?
I’m back at work now and have been for 2 weeks.
Life is blooming tough. I’m doing everything I should be but just can’t get excited about things or look forward to anything anymore
Hi @mrsfids,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely sharing how you are feeling I’m so sorry to hear about your partner.
Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through. I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it. Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Abi
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Unfortunately there is not a time factor in what were all going through.
Don’t push trying to move forward you’ll get there in your own time.
You’ve made a real positive move going back to work.
Take care and watch out for the sign’s from your love one.
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MrsFids big virtual hugs to you. This loss and grief is a real rollercoaster and I’m sure people have already said be kind to yourself - but do whenever possible. The love and positive times you had can’t be taken away and I really try and focus on that when all those negative scary feelings threaten to engulf . I’m making a list of places we talked about revisiting or going for the first time , things we enjoyed doing and thinking I’ll take him him with me wherever I am so he gets to be part of it still. ( I carry a photo and talk to him ) I’m not saying this makes it ok always but it helps in the moment .
It’s such early days I’m 18 months on and still in pain. Sending you lots of love 
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