Feeling sad

So today we buried my Husbands ashes. I actually put them in the ground. I wanted to jump in too.
When does it get easier?


Sorry Jane, totally understand why you’d feel this way.

I’d love to tell you when it’ll become better, though honestly I don’t know myself. The one positive is you’ve started to share your thoughts on here, you are clearly made of exceptionally strong stuff.

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Hi @JaneD ,

I’m so sorry to hear about your Husband. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are feeling really distressed.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts during their grief journey. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:


There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, Jane, get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,


I wish I knew and could help. We are all different even though we have suffered a similar loss and empathise with each other more than those who haven’t lost their beloved.
Sending hugs. xxx