It will be 3 and a half years this month since i lost my pauline. I have struggled everyday. My furbabies are what helped me keep going. On wednesday the 2nd of October i had to have my beautiful cara put to sleep. She was 15 years and 8 months old. Her kidneys were failing . We tried a special diet to help her kidney function. But she was barely eating and had lost so much weight. I had to do what was right for her . She didn’t even want to go out for walks over the last few days. On wednesday she looked at me and let me know it was time. It broke my heart again to lose my baby girl. I didn’t realise just how much more lost and alone i would feel. I have 2 cats so i have to keep going for them. Cara was my strength . I miss you pup. I don’t know why I’m putting this up . I haven’t posted in a while. I just feel so alone and lost. I love you cara be at peace my beautiful girl. You are with pauline again now.
I’m so sorry to hear this, our pets really do give us unconditional love & it’s heartbreaking when we have to make that terrible decision, but you put her first & did what Pauline would have expected from you.
Cara is now being looked after by Pauline and I bet they were overjoyed to be reunited at rainbow bridge.
@Flower_garden thank you . I bet they were. I know cara missed pauline so very much. Thank you for replying to me.
So very sorry xx
This is so sad - sending hugs ….
So sorry to read this. I lost my husband on the 16 th june , then i lost my little yorkie Bobby a week later. Its so hard. I now have a puppy called Millie she is 6 months old. I needed a reason to get up for and she does that.
Sending hugs Jo xxx
Dear Casey. So very sorry to hear about Cara but as people have said she is now with your Pauline. I lost my last border collie Drift last December and was heartbroken they are always there for us when we needed them. I now have rehomed a lovely brown and white border collie called Meg she is 8yrs old and,lovely. Much love to you. Jenny. Xx
@jevncute i am so very sorry for your losses. It must have been so hard so close together. It’s amazing how much our pets give to us. They certainly are a reason to get up. Enjoy every moment with your puppy.
@Jen153 i am so sorry you lost drift. Yeah they are always there when we need them. Cara actually slept in the bed next to me and i could feel her against me. It’s good that you have meg now . Enjoy your time with her. I’m sure she is a character as they all are. Love and hugs x
Hi casey sorry for your loss im asked sue ryder for a category for the loss of a pet. They bring us such joy at a difficult time in our lives. I’m sure she’s in the arms of Pauline now and both waiting for you. Its been a long time since I’m heard from you as i think we joined about the same time just over 3 years for me. Not a day goes by where i dont miss my Jim, recently I’m been seeing a chap just as a good friend been for walk and coffee today he held my hand while we walked i do feel a bit of guilt but expect thats normal . I know jim wouldn’t want me to live alone for ever and he will always be in my heart. I do question if its the right thing to do .
@Misprint hi misprint thank-you. Thats a good idea. As you said our pets help us so much. I know cara kept me going and was always at my side giving me love. Yeah i think we did join pretty much the same time. I don’t post as much anymore as I’m not sure i could actually help anyone. I’m sure it is normal to feel a bit of guilt. But you have nothing to feel guilty for. Jim would want you to be happy again and live your life. He will always be in your heart and you will always love him. You are bound to question yourself whether it’s the right thing to do. But remember there is no right or wrong way with grief and how we live the rest of our lifes. Take it slow and just see how it goes. I wish you well . Take care x
Thanks casey and yes i think jim would have wanted me to be happy but that doesn’t mean i will ever forget him and when i eventually go i will still be buried with him . Hope your doing ok .x
Hiya Misprint I only lost my husbsnd in June he told me before he passed to meet someone new and be happy again.
Ok I am far from that as yet but I do believe our loved ones would want us to be happy again.
Hugs Jo xxx
Lost of husband of 24 yrs ago six yrs ago. Kids not around any longer … I am alone each day - long for another companion to share life with again but in South Africa there appear to be no single men over 55.
The loneliness is immense - probably in a bigger fog than ever discovering the reality of a lack of men plus no work despite my competence.
Days drag but it is not what I want… Just don’t have commonality with marrieds, black refugees or eighty five years old single woman … Stuck at 55 in a stalemate that therapy has provided no real solutions for. Wish I could head abroad to a first world country, find a companion and throw my life into building a business of simply working again.