Feeling stuck in a rut got no energy just want to sleep all the time and can’t be bothered with anyone around me
Feel like I’ve lost my bubbly self and all my energy,
After the loss off my 28 year old daughter in September and then my eldest sister in November,
I keep having a quick thought I’ll ring my sister as she was always the one I’d talk to when feeling like this and realising she’s not here either don’t no if I’m coming our going seems like one second I’m grieving for the sudden loss off my daughter then my sister.
Feel stuck in this with no energy to even talk to anyone just stuck in my own head.
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Hey👋🏻
I am new to this page but have to say I feel exactly the same as you’ lost my sparkle’ people close to me would say. Affecting my work now, mainly due to insomnia… my mind is racing after the complicated death at Christmas ,will & wishes surrounding my dad.I am hear to listen , maybe we can support each other how I am not sure but willing to try🫶🏼
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Awe I’m so sorry for your loss and you should be proud off yourself for reaching out for some support, I and find it helps me to express my thoughts and feelings on here.
And that was the word I was looking for
Lost my sparkle with no interest in anything or anyone.
Well done to you I think this sue Ryder group is amazing.
Trying to take every second off each day as it comes just wish I could get out off my own head right now.
Feel empty and lost right now
My sister would say come on now you was doing so well I miss her advice so much, and my daughter she was always nagging me about something or other.
Miss and love them both so much
Sending a great big hug your way
Thank you so much! 🫶🏼
I appreciate your response so very much. I have no family females as such around me ,apart from my cousin , lost my beloved mum young ( I was only 25 she was 48 to breast cancer) she was my best friend .I also lost my best friend at the time sometime after to breast cancer she was 39 …a sister I would of loved to have ,so I think I can appreciate your loss & where you are coming from, losing mum left a big hole in my life I can not fill. I do have a good friend but I feel I am wearing her down with all my doom & gloom.I have a wonderful partner of 26 years but he is suffering with an unpleasant health condition alongside a terminal condition so life is not being kind to us these past 4 years.
Sorry to go on ‘all about me’ I just wanted to share a bit of background. Losing dad has been complex & really difficult circumstances around him to get my head round, maybe I can share another time.
So how is your day going so far for you today? 
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Awe I’m so sorry for you, and don’t feel bad shout talking about you and how you feel honestly it’s all about sharing your feelings and emotions in which hopefully we can all support each other.
I don’t have any close friends in which I talk to,But have an amazing partner of 11 years in which was my daughter’s step dad and 3 weeks leading up to her sudden death she asked to call him dad ( he was over the moon )
I lost my mam when I was 16 then my dad when I was 21.
I have an older daughter and granddaughter in which are amazing and all grieving to my 12 year old granddaughter I feel for she misses her aunty Abbie so much bless her.
I have a son who is the youngest he’s 27 and he’s not coping at all lots off alcohol and Dr…, and very aggressive
He’s missing his sister to but he won’t talk to me or anyone about her.
I’ve had to stop him coming to my house as he’s unpredictable at the moment but also my heart breaks for him.
Sorry about me rambling on now lol was lovely to have a message from you with your kind words, and hope your feeling a little better at this moment in time
Sending a hug your way x
We have been through a lot! You are going through a lot! … I think we should be proud of ourselves for still standing … hard though isn’t it?
Today I can’t make my mind up whether I just feel numb or this sense of calm/ feeling of nothing is ‘acceptance’?
Mondays… the day of nothing and trying to figure out what the rest of this week will bring.The challenge is the ‘ going back to work’… Dreading that day.
I don’t know if this may work for you but I have been trying to find a positive in each day, whether it is a little treat or doing something I enjoy ( good tv drama) … I find Mondays are hard so that is definitely treat day however small( Chocolate) Some days I struggle to find a positive ,so I let that slide and then try harder the next day…doesn’t always work but I am trying.
It is sink or swim for me.
Hope you find something nice out of this day…. Keep going!
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Awe bless you every second off each day is difficult, when feeling in this flight or fight mode, I write a letter to my beautiful daughter sometimes I can write up to 2 A4 pages long and I then tear it out off the note pad and put it in a box with the rest off the letters I find it helps me a lot, and I volunteer in a charity shop in my local town twice a week only a few hours have to give myself a little kick to get me there but trying to push forward every second off every day is different I keep writing and releasing all my thoughts and feelings it’s important to try not to keep it all in your head in which I mostly do without realising some days.
And an a positive note I think what my Abbie would be saying to me right now
In which is don’t give in and keep plodding along the best we can x
My husband sadly left us last week Monday so just a week today, so not sure how I feel right now, just lost and in a daze. Deep pain in my heart, so yes i know that feeling of loss. Right now just reading all the emails on this forum and know that I am not alone. Sending hugs to all with their losses and pain at this time. xx
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Aww I’m so sorry must really raw at this moment in time, it don’t seem real at this proses of your loss I remember just feeling in a daze with the lead up to the funeral arrangements and funeral with lots off people around me , But just everything and every one being a blur around me take your time and send you lots off love your way keep reaching out sending a big hug your way x
So very sorry💗
We are here for you, lean on us.I am new here but already feel supported and understood.Like me, it took a lot to reach out but so glad I did.
Take all the time you need , little steps each day and the days you can’t, we are here for you🫶🏼
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Thankyou so very much for your kind words
Sending a hug straight to youx
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