Its 3 weeks since i lost my dad. The tears are there ready to cry at the drop of a hat. I cant believe he is gone even though i visited him dying and went to see him after his death at the funeral directors. And attending his funeral and being so upset i had to leave. The thing is i wasnt that close to my dad near the end. I was sick of being spoken to like a child everytime i visited him so i stopped going. Could i be feeling like this because i feel guilty? I just dont know. But the pain is unbearable…
Hello, sorry you are feeling so much pain from your grief. It seems likely that you are grieving for the relationship you had with your Dad. Even if things have not been perfect there’s still a whole range of emotions tangled up in the grief. It’s a long, tough journey. Have you got anyone to support you? Talking through how you feel can help or writing it all down. If you read through the posts on this forum you’ll see that you aren’t alone. There are a lot of us on this torturous road of grief. Take care xx
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. It sounds as though things are very difficult at the moment and you are feeling so many different emotions.
I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you are feeling here and I hope that you find the community a good source of support. Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one and will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Take care and keep reaching out,
(Online Bereavement Community team)
@Shellcat I think it’s pretty usual for these thoughts when someone dies. When my Dad died in March, my brother swore it opened up parts of his brain to memories he’d forgotten. Guilt is a part of it, things we did or didn’t do & now can’t. There’s nothing you can do about that now so concentrate on the better stuff. Best wishes to you X