My husband died 7 weeks ago. He was only diagnosed 4 weeks earlier with advanced lung cancer. We had been together for 37 years, married for 33.
Im absolutely distraught and feel like each day I’m getting worse. I dont know what to do with myself, watching everyone get on with their lives whilst i sit crying most of the day. i do go out once a week but when im out i want to be home. I feel like I’m spiralling sometimes. I miss him so much.
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Hi @MrsSutty sorry you’re feeling the agony of grief, it’s brutal isn’t it? Your loss is still very raw and recent so you can expect it to feel completely devastating. Be kind to yourself and literally take each fragment of time as it comes, do what feels right for you. Try to forge some kind of simple routine for taking care of yourself though as grief is exhausting. Remember your grief is the continuation of the love you have for your husband, but at this time words offer little comfort. Take care xx
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Hi
I feel that in some way we are very similar today, my mum died 4 weeks ago and your husband not much more. So i do know exactly how you are feeling and this time of year has made it so much harder. I hope we can both find our way to cope with our grief and go on to honour there memory by living a life of eventual happiness knowing that they are with us every day in everything we do. Im hoping it gets easier for the both of us but i know how very far off that seems at the moment.
Kind thoughts, louise
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Thank you, it is brutal yes. We lived in each others pockets every day and now I miss him so much and some days cant stop crying. I try to get into a bit if a routine but it might only last a couple of days then i cant be bothered getting up in a morning and simple tasks take so much energy. I’m hoping time will help.
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It does seem a long way off doesn’t it. I dread that i will feel like this forever and i know he wouldn’t want me too. I have my son who has been brilliant and handling it very well. I hope you are getting support to help you with your grief for your mum. Take care and look after yourself and thank you for taking the to respond.
@MrsSutty just keep trying and don’t worry if you can’t do it everyday. Sometimes the grief is so sharp and you just have to go with it. These feelings will change though. I have found getting outside for even a short walk can help, just breathing and noticing the nature around you. Take it all in little fragments of time, half hourly or ten minutes if possible. Best wishes, take care xx
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