I lost my darling husband nearly 18 months ago, why do I feel so worthless and useless?
I have managed to get through all the
Firsts with the love and support of my sons. But I have lost all my courage and confidence to see any kind of future on my own, there’s such a lonely emptiness.
Really hoping someone can tell me this is normal.
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I lost my husband 13 months ago and I feel exactly the same. I have really tried to keep busy but nothing seems to make me feel any better. I’m finding that nobody mentions his death anymore but it’s the only thing on my mind. So you are not alone feeling like you do. Since I’ve been on this site it seems there are loads of us in same position. We can only hope that things will get easier. Take care xxx
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I hope the grief lightens up for you. I found the early months “easier,” but things became much more difficult at month 4. I guess the numbness was protecting me. I go through the motions, but it’s so difficult.
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Yes I agree, my grief seems to have got worse since first anniversary of his death. Think I was in shock and disbelief for the first year and reality has now hit that I’ll never see him again. Also my friends and even family seem to think I should be getting over it xxx
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Thank you for your reply, Nala I feel exactly the same with regards to my friends thinking I should be getting over it. My heart aches for him and it still takes every ounce of my being to try to function on a daily basis. xx
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Dear @JAK3 @Nala
I feel exactly the same.
Lost my husband 2 years 3 months ago. Could be yesterday. Nothing easier, all much much harder because no one else cares anymore
I too feel totally WORTHLESS.
What is the point in my life anymore.
I just feel so sad ALL THE TIME.
And still so completely exhausted.
Still rubbish sleep and rubbish appetite and eating.
Recently had cancer scare… Put on fast track 2 week referral. Colonoscopy last Sunday. Found a polyp and diverticulitis disease but no cancer. Part of me disappointed… Hoping a way to get back to my husband quicker.
Can’t tell anyone else that outside of this forum. They wouldn’t understand at all.
Sorry for sad post… Feeling especially vulnerable tonight.
Love hugs and strength to all on here
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To cathpil. , so glad your tests were ok but do understand how you feel about not caring about them. I feel exactly the same about my health. Life seems so meaningless that I’m just going through motions of surviving day to day and I’ll never be happy again. Lots of hugs to all in this awful position xxx
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Thank you.
I understand darlin’.
I’ll never be happy again either.
I miss when my smile was real …
But I miss my husband’s smile even more 
What a s**t situation we are all in.
Love , hugs and strength
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