Hi, i hope its ok for me to post in here.
My fiancée recently lost his twin brother and the funeral is next week. He didnt even make it to 40. Im looking for some advice on how to support him cause hes spiralling out of control and i dont know how to help him. Hes turned to drink and im really worried about him cause he keeps saying hes done and he doesnt wna b alive anymore.
I know i will never understand fully how much pain hes in, but i cant lose him as well.
Can anyone offer any advice on how to help him through this please
Hello @Michelleg83,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry for your fiancée’s loss.
When it comes to something as tough as grief, it can be hard to know what to say or do that might help someone you love. Our Grief Kind campaign has lots of resources that can help. You can:
- Watch our Grief Kind classes. Our Grief Kind classes are five short video tutorials in which Sue Ryder bereavement experts talk you through what grief is like and how you can support others who are grieving
- Listen to our Grief Kind podcasts. Our Grief Kind podcasts are hosted by author, journalist and Sue Ryder ambassador, Clover Stroud. She speaks with celebrities about their personal experiences of bereavement and the support which helped them most when coping with their grief.
- Read our guide on supporting someone else who has been bereaved.
If you do feel really worried about his safety, you should call 111 and choose option 2 for mental health, or call 999 for urgent help.
I hope that you find these resources helpful. Please take good care of yourself, too - the community is here for you.
Seaneen