I lost my mum in December and her funeral was on new years eve. It was really hard, with everyone really happy and having to put a brave face on.
Its made harder, because myself and my brother fell out in the April last year. Our mum had had a fall, i couldn’t get up there, (we live in separate countys) as i had noone to look after our dog. He was annoyed, so told me the hospital wanted to keep her in, but they decided to take her home. Turns out it wasnt the case. He didn’t talk to me till mum passed.
On the day mum passed, i got there as fast as i could, by which time, mum had been taken to morgue, my brother had been drinking, and as soon as i walked through door, he flipped his lid and had a go, saying id left them to do everything. But whenever id wanted to be included, id always been told i lived too far away to be included. I haven’t spoke to him since, im blocked. Feels like ive lost my brother too.
Since then, my sister told me mum had made a will, making herself and our brother exutures of will. The house couldn’t be sold while our brother abd his wife still lived there, and everything in the house had been left to our brother. My siblings were power of attorney too.
2 months on, my sister then told me i was mentioned in will, and our brother will transfer the deeds of mums house into his name, and buy myself and my sister out. Its all gone to probate. I feel my sister is playing games. Im just leaving them to get on with it. I dont trust either of them whatever happens, happens.