Hi,
My Mum died on the 9th February very suddenly to a stroke and we are still all trying to get our heads around it as a family.
Losing Mum has affected us all deeply but I feel I can’t grieve fully as I am so worried about my Dad.
Dad now has to live alone in his flat that he lived in with Mum and I don’t want him to ever feel lonely or anything.
Out of all the siblings I live the closest and since Mum died I have gone round every day to see him and spend hours with him - literally like 12 hour days so he doesn’t ever feel alone.
The issue with this is that sadly I have 3 children and have to leave them with my husband and feel like I trying to cut myself into so many pieces to help everyone.
My siblings tell me that I need to stop going round and that Dad needs to be alone as this is going to be his new reality now but as I can’t deal with that and the thought of him being lonely - I’m finding it hard to detach.
I don’t know what I am asking but I feel because I so consumed with Dad it has made me find it hard to grieve for my Mum and I stop the tears and find it hard to talk about her upcoming funeral.
Any advice on how to deal with the loss of one parent and supporting the other is much appreciated.