Hi everyone
I lost my husband 11 weeks ago
I know it has not been long and i still feel completely lost without him.
One thing im finding really difficult is being round other couples
They are our friends and so supportive but when i see them hold hands or have little laugh between them it just brakes my heart
If they talk about any plans they have made, i just stop listening . I hate being like this but im just so sad that ill never make any plans with my husband again.
Does this get any better?
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Hi, I am sorry for your loss and 11 weeks is very early days. I understand how you feel seeing couples and hearing them making plans that we can no longer do, the sadness is enormous for us. I can’t say it will get better or not as I am on this lonely journey too but a little further ahead than you , I lost my partner in April to SADS aged 63
Keep going and try to look after yourself and take any support offered. Keep posting as it helps knowing everyone on this forum are all on the same journey. Take care Linda
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Thank you for your kind message and im so sorry you are having to go through this too. We all have to try and keep going dont we.
My husband died suddenly at 54. We had been together since i was 20 - i dont know how to be on my own. I hope it does get better for all of us xx😘 take care x
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We absolutely do have to carry on going for them as much as ourselves.
That is so sad for you after so many years together , I can imagine how lost you must feel and a future just snatched away in a moment.
All we can do is take baby steps and keep going on our lonely road . Take care xx
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My husband passed away 1 week ago aged 46. Today i was at my mother in laws and two of our couple friends popped in, unaware i would be there, to support my husbands parents. They were talking about taking their kids out for the day as a family, making plans for a holiday as a couple. I managed to hold it together until i keft with my two kids (15 and 17) and i cried all the way home. In a room full of people, i was alone and will be forever now. Its heartbreaking.
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I feel exactly the same. Its so lonely
I dread seeing couples now.
Its absolutely heartbreaking
Im am so sorry u are going through this too
I hope we will be able to adapt to it somehow in the future but at the moment i just dont want to see couples. I just cant take it.
Sending you lots of love 
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So sorry this is a path we never asked for. Lost my husband 31/8/2025. We was always together. I find it difficult being near couples or seeing older ones when I go out for a walk as I miss that. My husband was very affectionate he would take my hand or arms over my shoulder or we clutch each other arm in arm when walking. Its tough. My Sister in law asked me to come stay. I just can’t as they are couple.
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