Hi,… I found my partner dead almost 2/4 years ago… 
I knew him just over six years … he liked a drink … but was alcohol dependent the last few years he lived… I’ve never had counselling- was told by my dr to join waiting lists… I accept he’s gone… and it’s the finding him that’s screwed me up… if anyone can relate?
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Hello @Jewell_12 ,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your partner. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
I am sorry you lost your partner, it is Earth shattering. Yes, finding a loved one dead is a huge and instant catapult into trauma. Trauma of loss and the horrible scene is burned into your brain. I get it.
Many of us here found our partners dead and we have all been numb ever since - which is the same for anyone losing a partner.
Take out your favorite photo of your partner when he was happy and healthy. Look at it everyday and when the last scene pops up, switch it to the happy photo image.
It is only one image out of thousands. Choose the good ones and push the bad one away.
You are normal. We are all walking wounded.
Pray.
Much love.
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I think counseling is something someone would def. need in a situation like yours. Maybe EMDR or brain spotting? I haven’t done either, but heard they can be very helpful. I hope you find peace.
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