Hello everyone, it’s my micks 43rd birthday next week, I just know the day is going to be so bad for me, non stop tears and everything else, it’s only been
9 weeks since he left me and I’m not sure what I’m going to do for his bday, I will obviously go to cemetery, take flowers, if his mother doesn’t bin my flowers again that is 
just seems very unfair that he’s not here to open his cards and presents!! What does everyone else do to
Celebrate their other half’s bday? I was thinking maybe food with my son, I really don’t know! Not sure I can even do that cos I just want him back!!! 
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I’m so sorry that you are going through this… for my husband 54th birthday I made him a cake and got him a birthday candle which I lit in the evening. I brought a pandora charm of a blue butterfly and put it on the bracelet that my husband brought me. His favourite colour was blue. My son and my husband best friend and my best friend went out for a meal and brought my husband favourite drink and did a toast for him. His birthday was 9 months after he died so further along then you. What ever you do I’m sure it will be special for you xx
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@Hazel.1966 I’m filled with massive anxiety and crying already thinking about him not being here for his bday, he was never bothered about bdays anyway but it’s not that, it’s just I want him back, I miss him so much, and now his bday is nearly here I just think wow he’s not actually here anymore!! He’s forever 42 I hate it, but thank you for your reply
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Yes it is horrible and very sad that their lives have been robbed and our future plans and dreams have gone. All the firsts make it so much harder as well. I miss my husband terribly. Take one hour at a time and try to be kind to yourself. Big hugs xx
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I lost my hubby Kieron in November 23.
21st December was his mum’s 90th birthday.
On 23rd December it was great grandson’s 2nd birthday.
Then Christmas.
18th January was his 65th birthday.
I didn’t talk to anyone. I spent most of the day crying.
I hope it gets easier to deal with. I don’t want to feel like that on his birthday. I want to be able to enjoy that day, just the way we did.
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I’ve had another horrendous day, just
Keep thinking this life isn’t real and it’s someone else’s! hate it so much, when I see other couples I get so panicky thinking why me? Why not them? As horrible as that sounds! I feel robbed
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I know exactly what you mean. The one thing that really gets me, is, couples that are walking together. They are on their mobiles. I just want to grab them and tell them how lucky they are to have someone by their side.
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I know, one minute mine was here laughing and joking sending me funny grinch videos and the next day he was gone! Absolutely tragic and I don’t think I will ever come to terms with it:pensive: he knew how much I loved him though, I told him everyday, he was snatched away so suddenly with undiagnosed heart problems and I wish I could turn back time, people keep saying I
Couldn’t of done anything but I will never know now
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Don’t be hard on yourself hun. Just remember the time you had with him. That’s what i do. I miss him like i never thought i would.
You were there for him. You have memories of your time together.
Im sure he wouldn’t want you beating yourself up. I know it’s easier said than done, but please, be kind to yourself. 
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I’m so sorry you are going through this awful time. Please read and take all the resources available on here. They have been an absolute god send to me. Reading and writing on this forum has been good for me, just knowing I’m not alone in this lonely life I’m now forced to lead. Take care and be kind to yourself x
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