Really thought I’d be a wreck this morning opening the gifts she’d bought before she died 3 weeks ago but I was fine, I was fine during Christmas dinner, I was fine when friends came round to see how I was doing, What set me off? Seeing a glass I bought her when I was in Hong Kong with my work she hated it it was back in one of. My cupboard is been there all this time not affecting me till now and it caused me to completely lose it.
Anyone else been like this over an object?
We’ve got the funeral on New Year’s Eve and I’m one step away from turning it Into an un attended ceremony, I feel that I just won’t be able to go
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goblinqueen, I am so very sorry that your momma died. It is just horrible. My mom died almost 13 years ago and I still reach for the phone to call her when something happens in life. We learn to live without mom, but we never stop needing her.
Of course, there are some things that I pick up and hold onto very tightly because they are full of the essence of who my husband was. I wore his watch for weeks, i clutched his wallet and car keys to my chest as they were always on his person. Each item raised an emotion, a memory, a yearning. I cried over his rain suit.
Throw that glass in the rubbish, it has bad memories reminding you that you bought something for your mom that she didn’t like. Every time you see it, those same memories will return. Let it go.
Much love.
@goblinqueen666 So sorry for your loss.
Objects, pictures, music etc can all trigger memories and cause wobbles.
You are doing really well and should be proud of yourself as would your Mum be!
NYE and the funeral will not be easy but it’s a way to say goodbye and also celebrate your Mum’s life.
Can a relative or friend accompany you?
Have you thought about something you would like to say or a piece of music?
Sending you strength. Take care 
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my mum was laid to rest a week ago it’s been 6 weeks since her passing I didn’t cope well on Christmas Day just wasn’t the same with out her, little memories set me off as well I see some thing belonging to her and I break down. It’s going to take time I’m not sure I’ll ever get over my mum passing away. I hope the funeral goes well. Stay strong.
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I’ve got my partner his parents and close friends going her sister has refused to go as she said it’s too far to travel I never got a chance to see her when she died and now she’s had a post mortem I’ve been advised by the funeral home (who were close friends with her for decades ) not to see her I just feel like I won’t be able to let myself go at the funeral never have with other family members funerals
Hi @goblinqueen666 , you, your partner & your friends are all you need! Even if it was just you in attendance your mum would be proud of you.
Your partner& friends will support you & don’t worry about breaking down at the funeral. I was a complete mess at my mums funeral. I was so weak I told my sister I didn’t think I could go. She said she’d get a wheelchair for me if she had to. From somewhere I found the strength to stand & deliver the eulogy. I did cry uncontrollably during the service & after at the reception but those who came didn’t care. They were there for mum & to support us.
You can do this hun.