Couldn’t have chosen better words, I would press pause in a heartbeat. I really and truly don’t want to do it this year. I’m 53 and Steve was only 44 so was way too young for him to go. I didn’t have children but he has 4 and I was so blessed to have been their stepmum. I’ve decided I want Christmas alone this year as I can’t face it without him. It’s probably harder for you as you have to do it.x
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Lee was 42 so I get the young boy, I’m 40 and wish I was older to not have to live a life without him but it’s a privilege but doesn’t feel that way at the moment. We all have each other on here and that is a blessing, it’s what has kept me going in these lonely nights when I’m sat not wanting noise, but needing to be busy and talking or reading others words of encouragement. I’ve just ordered some gifts for his parents as I want them to have things to remember him by and I’ll spend the day with them and the girls so that we have each other. I always visit my dads grave in the morning with my family he was 54 passing 5 years ago and my beloved will be a stone throw away when his ashes are laid to rest in a couple of weeks time x
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@Foreveryoung81 I’m literally 2 weeks in, I have worked at home since the pandemic initially because I was shielding and then because my wife’s health started to decline.
Luckily my daughter is a GP and immediately put a sick note in for 3 weeks due to stress !
My sleep pattern is all over, my concentration is not good but it’s slowly improving and I’m going to try to start back on 5/12 and then my wife’s funeral is 11/12. I only have 3 weeks until I retire so it’s just a short sprint the finish line.
Perhaps crawl rather than sprint is more appropriate
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So sorry for your loss, I hope you manage to have some distraction when back working although I find everything takes me twice as long as before. Glad retirement is in sight and I hope you have plans to keep you busy, my mam was offered early retirement when my dad passed so never went back 5 years ago and she unfortunately had the pandemic soon after so never forged a life for herself so is only now attempting that. It’s something I have been very mindful of trying to do although I really don’t want to do anything without Lee.
I had been working 4 day since last July to help ease things - I’m sure that if you have a good employer and workplace colleagues then there are both financial and social benefits to consider even if hybrid working you can still retain social contact if you have a supportive environment.
I have a broad plan for 2024 so will follow it and try not to get frustrated or upset if things don’t work out plus I plan to work maybe 2 days a week average to pay for the nice things in life.