Going out for a meal for my Mum’s birthday tomorrow. We’d always do these meals for family birthdays with Dad, usually we’d do lunch or a meal or a picnic for all of our birthdays. I really want to carry on the tradition and be together as a family. But I’m also scared I’ll cry all the way through Mum’s birthday, and make her feel worse than she already does having lost Dad at the end of January. I chose a restaurant that has no association with Dad to try and help it not feel so very acute. I just wondered if anyone had any experience or thoughts on how to cope with this kind of a first? Thanks so much in advance. I cried just booking the table for one less person than usual.
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Hi @magenta ,
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support/share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out,
Alex
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@magenta I’ve been through the year of firsts & it will be a year since my Dad died on 8/3. For my mum’s Birthday, I had some jewellery made with his handwriting so he was a part of the day. There’s no easy way thru it. Perhaps you could all toast him with his favourite drink so he’s there in spirit or some other thing unique to him. My Dad was a huge Costa fan so mum & me toasted him on his own Birthday. I hope it goes aswell as can be expected. X
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your Dad. The jewellery you got for your Mum sounds beautiful. I’ve ordered Mum a necklace with Dad’s fingerprint engraved on it.
The meal out without Dad was incredibly hard. His absence was so loud. But equally I felt like we were honouring him by going ahead with our usual family tradition. And we spoke of him and there were tears, mostly from me! I’m glad we did it even if it was tough. X
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@magenta Well done! You’ve done him proud. I had the fingerprint jewellery for my mum’s Xmas present. It’s nice there are these options to honour a loved one. The absence of them is loud, almost deafening. Some days really are worse than others. I’m glad you could talk about your Dad, it keeps them alive sharing memories. Those early weeks I think I cried most days so I know how it is. Xx
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