Packing for our first holiday without my husband and i had a meltdown 
got really stressed and I’m not even happy about going but I’m doing it for my son and just hope we cope without him there. We deserve to be happy but how can we without him in our life and i really don’t know how to move on.
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Oh Judy, I completely feel for you. I have no experience of this yet, but I have stayed at friends, family a hotel for a few days at a time in the last month.
I have found it helps me to feel him closer if I pack my Husband’s glasses, watch, phone and a photo of the 2 of us together. I position these in a place near to me in the room (or my bag on a day out).
Separately I was advised to talk to my Husband, chat, ask him questions and knowing him so well, imagine his answers or you can do this through a journal, writing it down, so maybe talking about the holiday. I did this last week on a balcony as I watched lovely people laughing, dancing , not grieving. There were tears, but strangely telling my Husband with pen and paper and a lovely coffee eased it in that moment. I can only deal with ‘moments’ , you may be the same. Hopefully there will be moments of joy while you’re away 
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Mrscx i did start writing things down to my husband and it just got so hard and all i did was cry. I wear a necklace with his ashes in and i have a memory box with everything of his and i have a t shirt that i hug at times. But going on holiday is going to be so hard but i need to try for my son. It’s so difficult and sending hugs to you
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I can completely empathise with how you’re feeling.
My husband died two weeks before our annual holiday to the same place we visit every year. He adored it as did we all.
My children very much wanted to go and I must admit I was dreading it.
Going without him was a wrench but I knew he would have been livid if we didn’t.
It was lovely and heartbreakingly sad at the same time.
I missed him so much it hurt but I also felt him very much with us. He was the fun playful dad , I tried to step up but gosh it was hard and exhausting. I had fun but I did feel a bit like I was acting, pretending for the sake of my kids.
It was lovely to have a break from home and the overwhelming grief we were all feeling.
I do hope it goes as well as it can be for you and your boy
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Swantaff im really glad you went on holiday and had fun with your family and I’m sure the children loved it and i bet it was really difficult at the same time. We are going tomorrow with my daughter and 2 grandsons and this is all new to me and my boy and of course our first holiday without my husband i feel like I’m leaving him behind 
and we ate both very anxious about going. Hugs to you all
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Hi
I went on holiday alone in may this year…it would have been our 43rd wedding anniversary…it was the same hotel we’ve been to the last 30 yes and where our daughter got married on the beach…but I’m so glad I did it…it was difficult telling the hotel staff that mike had passed away
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