First night

Tonight is the first night I am on my own in our home. It’s 2 weeks and 1 day since he was taken and I am completely broken. I don’t know how I am meant to do this. It’s killing me that he’s not here with me. I just don’t know what to do, not after advice as such but just need to put something down in writing and not to my parents. They have been incredible but I cannot continue to rely on them as much as they need time and space to grieve too. I don’t know how to do this


None of us know how to do this. There is no road map. All I can say is putting your feelings down in this site seems to help. You will do a lot of crying at this point. Live 1 day at a time. Take all the help and support you can get. You will either sleep too much or not at all, eat a lot or nothing. It is very individual. Love and hugs. Sandra


I’m sorry, I know how hard it is, we all do. My 49 year old partner died unexpectedly in January and the early weeks and months are incredibly difficult. There’s so much to sort at the start and organise as well and coping with the devastation of their death and loss of your future and plans. You will have many thoughts and they are all normal, even the dark ones.
We have been there, some are there with you and unfortunately there will be more behind you.
Keep talking, kept reaching out, there’s always someone to listen.
We can’t take away your pain but the support on this site does help.
Take it a day at a time, an hour at a time but let people help you, they will want to.


@LenCawth Sorry that you have joined the club that no one wants to be a member of! None of us know what to do, we can only take everything as it comes! There is no right or wrong but for me talking on here helps! J x

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