Hello, I’m new to this community. I just wanted to find a bit of courage to post. My husband, 57, died very unexpectedly in March this year. He went to A&E on the Friday evening and was diagnosed with acute pancreatitis. By the Sunday, he was in ICU and he died the following day. Huge shock for the family. Devastating loss. We married in 2021 and had the happiest marriage. I miss him so much. I’m still learning to navigate grief.
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Hello Cath, so sorry for your loss and hope that you find some comfort here. We are all in this place together- none of us want to be here! I lost my beloved husband of 45 years in April this year and am learning to navigate the new normal slowly! I have 2 sons and grandchildren but I so miss my dear Mike. Being able to chat here helps as you understand you are not alone and everyone here understands! Hoping you will find peace - much love xx
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Hello Cath71, so sorry for the loss of your husband, I also lost my husband age 57 in March. My precious husband passed away from pneumonia, although he did have many health issues, his death was a huge shock to us, you are never prepared for it. I miss my husband a lot too, he meant everything to me, he was my best friend and soul mate, the person I wanted to be with the most, and now hes gone. Going through life will never be the same. This site is a blessing for me, I can always reach out and people are here to listen and they understand. Unless you have someone close to you who has also experienced such a loss, i find other people don’t want to hear what you’re going through, cause they don’t understand and don’t know what to say. I hope you keep posting. Take care and God bless you 
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Morning @Cath71
I am sorry for your loss . my husband died last September suddenly unexpectedly heart attack . The shock is terrible the few months are the hardest. I have grown up children and grandchildren. It’s hard to get used being on your own after being a couple for so long . We are all in different stages of the grief journey. We all understand, nobody understands what it like to their husband or wife till it happens to them . I hope you find some peace in your day . 
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Hi Cath, I am sorry to hear about your husband. I had two years to come to terms with idea of my wife dying as she had a terminal cancer but when she did die I was broken apart with the pain. I had no idea that it could be so horrendous, only those who have gone through it can understand it. I met my wife when I was eighteen and I am now trying to survive without her.
I hope you find some solace here where everyone understands the pain of losing their loved one.
wishing you all the best
Tom
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Thank you everyone. One of the things I’m having to adjust to is that as life starts to have some ‘normal’ things returning, like going back to work or dealing with everyday house things, it makes me feel that Andy is moving further away from me and feeling less real and I don’t like that feeling. It’s still hard to believe he’s gone. Its lonely even with amazing family and friends around.
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Hello Cath, seems like we lost our husband’s around the same time. You say your life seems to be getting back to normal, that’s a good thing, and going back to work, will help you , hopefully, get rid of the sad memories . And they’ll be replaced with all the good memories of you and your husband. I think we all want that for ourselves to be able to move forward with our lives, to live fully, not just existing. Im sure our husband’s want us to be happy 
. Take care and God bless you
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It’s hard isn’t it. I’m sorry for your loss too. It’s hardly any time since March when Andy died but it feels like this has been such a long time. I think normality is still a long way off but the little everyday things have to happen still. I’m on a phased return to teaching this half term but then I can have a break over the summer. I am able to enjoy somethings but its often bitter sweet. The easier things to enjoy are the things I already did on my own like my choir. But I will miss seeing his face in the audience and miss his support. I used to ring him as I set off home after rehearsals so I could have a chat before he went to bed. I miss that now.
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Hi Cath, you said it, bittersweet, that’s exactly it, ..the things im beginning to enjoy are bittersweet because I wish my husband was with me…my grandkids accomplishments, my husband would have been so proud of them..im sad hes not here to see it. I use to always message my husband too whenever I’d go somewhere, that i arrived safely and then when I’d be going home…I actually did message him the other night after shopping with my daughter , that i was on my way home.
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Hi Cath, you describe just the way I am feeling but I guess it is very early days- Mike passed away in April so just a month after your husband. I managed to make a trip up to Newcastle to see my brother and family at the weekend and I feel more positive that I managed the trip from Cheltenham on my own though very much missed Mike’s quiet presence - always there supporting, So enjoy your choir and activities that help you stay in touch with others - we will, in time, learn to adjust, I hope and believe. 
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Hi Cath It’s funny how time works. For me it has almost been six months Which in some ways seems such a long time ago but at the same time it feels like a moment. At the beginning I would be crying constantly and I now sometimes cry because I realise I haven’t cried today yet.
Wishing you all the best
Tom