My dad passed away 2 days ago. He had a heart attack in August and was recovering slowly but he had another heart attack and although everything was tried to resuscitate it didn’t work and he passed.
This is my first very close loss, I’m lucky to still have all my grandparents, I’m in the early stages of shock, disbelief, denial, panic.
I have a toddler and a baby and i feel so sad they won’t know him and he won’t see them grow Up. We saw him most weeks since my Toddler was born, and he loved being a grandad so much.
I’m just hoping to hear of others journeys and what to expect, any things that helped.
I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. It sounds like you’re feeling shocked and panicked.
The sudden death of someone close to you can often leave you with intense feelings to cope with as you grieve. And you might also be coping with the trauma and shock of it, which can make it all the more difficult.
Many of our members have experienced a sudden death and will understand some of what you’re going through. You can read some recent conversations about this by clicking this link. You might find some comfort and support in knowing you are not alone.
I lost my mum very suddenly. At first I felt “shocked” and for a while everything seemed ok until it all very suddenly fell apart. I’ve realised I don’t communicate with others about how I felt properly, so that’s my No. 1 tip I suppose? Not that I’ve dealt with this well lol.
Other than that, don’t make my mistake of trying to keep it all inside. Let emotions out at appropriate times and feel the way you need to feel. Emotional support from others IS helpful, even if it doesn’t feel that way at the time.
One day this will feel a tiny bit better, the loss will be raw but we all slowly learn to deal with it in our own way.
I think this is totally how I’m feeling. I’m almost not 100% dealing with it. I think about it constantly but I’m also trying not to think about it and I feel I’ll have another breakdown at some point when the realisation totally hits.
Fortunately I do have a lot of family support. My parents were separated but I have my dads parents and my step mum (they were together 32 years so most of my life) and my step siblings.
and then I have my mum and her parents, my brother etc (although he lives abroad) and my husband and kids (who are a good distraction as they’re so little I still need to go everything for them)
how long ago did you lose your mum? (Sorry for your loss too)
