I lost my hero, my Dad in April to suicide. I was blessed to have his love, guidance and presence in my life for 39 wonderful years. As xmas gets closer I’m feeling more nervous. I get my love of music from him, and I know the songs alone are going to be difficult to hear, I can’t even think about anything else yet, but I have a 12 year old daughter - who he doted on - so skipping xmas is not an option. I guess I’d like to ask if anyone has any advice? Is it better to just throw myself in, listen to the music, think about Dad and previous Christmases, or try to avoid certain things and not dwell on the pain.
Thank you in advance, sending love to all who need it 
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I am sorry to hear about your Dad. I am facing my 1st Christmas without my Mum this year. I am too thinking about it - I am going to carry on with the normal traditions as I have kids too. I think I accept the fact it will be hard but I am not going to hide how I feel just for everyone else. My eldest is taking on the mantle to help with dinner like my Mum did every year - I wish she could be with us but this year will be start of new tradition. She would have loved that. I think you should do what feels right for you at this time - don’t put any pressure on yourself xx
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I’m so sorry you’re going through the same pain. Thank you for your advice, particularly the idea of us starting new traditions and how much our parents would like this - I can imagine Dad enjoying watching us. Mam is going to stay over at ours on Xmas eve, and I think we’re going to go out for xmas dinner so this year will be completely different. I’d like to do something to keep Dad with us, maybe keep a candle lit or have a walk along his favourite route.
I’m sending you all the love and strength in the world for the coming season, our parents will be with us 
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