Hey, i lost my dad in January of 2021. i know exactly what youre talking about, at the time i was taking my gcses and i pushed grieving aside in order to complete school. it felt like it got better for a while but now 2 years later im back where it started. flashbacks, trying hard to remember our last phonecall and remembering his voice. i also get dreams, really vivid ones where i hug him and talk to him and it all feels so real. I personally didnt find counselling helpful but thats just me it may be worth looking into x
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My dad also died in February…the images in my head kill me and I play them over on a daily basis. I would never change being there with him in his final moments but the pictures in my head are hard to carry around. I feel like its got harder because you feel like others think you should be over it by now and you don’t want to feel like you sound like a broken record months later. I also feel like he’s getting further away from me as the days go on and worry people are forgetting and it’s like a lump of concrete in my chest. How are you now?
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Hi, I am so sorry for your loss.
I feel the same. I am glad in a way I was there for him.
I still get the flashbacks every day.
I cry every day too. It hasn’t got any easier. I suppose it’s not that long ago that our Dads passed
away really. I miss him so much 
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I hope things get easier for you.
Take care of yourself xxx
Bless your heart. I feel for you. It’s the hardest thing to go through.
Thanks for your message.
Sending a hug x
Hi, so sorry for your loss.
18 weeks ago is not that long. I think you need to get your emotions out and having a good old sob is good for you.
I understand exactly how you feel.
It’s scares me that I will never see my beloved Dad again. I sometimes can’t bear it.
Please take care of yourself. Sending you a big hug x
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Thanks so much for your message,honesty and advice.
I really appreciate it.
Xxx
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So sorry for your loss.
Grief is the weirdest thing.
I haven’t dreamt about my Dad.
We all deal with it differently I think.
I hope you will be ok.
Sending you a hug x
I feel guilty every day I get up and get on with things…I know he wouldn’t want me to but I feel guilty all the time…when I laugh I feel guilty. He wanted so badly to be here and lived his life so healthily, it felt like he was cheated. Watching what he went through in those final days was heroic! He fought right up until the end. I miss him so much it hurts…my stomach is constantly in bits. I am here if you ever want to talk x
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I recently lost my mum back in april. She was discharged from hospital on Wednesday, and passed away in my arms early sunday morning, in my arms. I still see her sitting in her chair and expect her to say something. I cant bare to sit in mums chair, just incase shes coming back 
. I play her favourite cds that we both liked - Daniel O’Donnell. I cry and cry almost everyday, it’s only been 2½ months since mums passing 
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I’m so sorry. It is the worst feeling in the world.
I sit in my Dads chair, it gives me some comfort. I cry every day too.
I dont think I will ever be the same again.
Sending you the biggest hug. Here if you need to message me. I know exactly what you are going through. Xx
my dad passed in june and ive been back at work and surprisingly my first few days back went okay…my boss was surprised and i think i suprisrd myself at how calm i was. Dont feel like that now, i feel the guilt and anger stage now. I feel guilty when i laugh or even just sing along to music…it hurts so much losing a parent…especially when it was so sudden, 3 weeks my dad spent in hospital…had a start date for chemo but its a releif for us all and him that he never went through that so im holding on to that as he said so himself that he didnt want chemo if he was to ever fall unwell so its a blessing in a way