Hi all .how are you all coping .my husband passed 8 weeks ago .still struggling and like all off you missing him beyond words .my daughter is coming up on sat to do a midnight walk with my stepdaughter in aid of cancer to honour my husband .she wants me to go and stay with her for about 10 days .i dont know what to do .her and her husband will both be working all week .the grandson who is 18 will most be probably sleeping lol. It will be my first time without kev .in some ways i want to go in other ways im scared as i dont know if i can do it without him .sending love and hugs to all
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Only you will k ow iff your ready but I think most of us struggle with either leaving the house or coming back to it. After the funeral, I went and stayed with my mum for a bit, thought I would panick and want to get home but actually I didnt, I enjoyed staying there, its when I came back that it was hard.
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Hi @Franky56,
It sounds like a very emotional time. It is totally up to you what you choose to do, but spending time with your daughter & her family sounds like a good idea, if you change your mind later, or don’t feel comfortable, you can always come home. If there’s one thing I get from talking to other people going through bereavement, it’s that we should spend as much time as we can with the people we love, & make the most of it, because who knows what’s round the corner. I understand as the first time there without your husband, you will no doubt feel the empty space, but I’m guessing you miss him at home also, at least with your daughter & her family hopefully they can comfort you, & the first time is always the hardest, the more you do it, hopefully the easier it gets.
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Obviously only you can make the decision if you go to your daughters but my way if coping if I do something is making sure I can come home early if I can’t cope.
I went away with friends the other month. Was meant to stay 2 nights but got so emotional I came home after just one. I was still pleased with myself for making one night. Nothing is easy on this awful journey
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Yeh its not so easy going anywhere is it ? I went to stay with my cousin few weeks ago ! Just one night ! I was in a right state when i got home ! Cried all day ! Its hard cos many things just make you feel more alone so best to avoid those things ive found ;( we just have to be so gentle with ourselves and be so kind to ourselves too cos of what we have been through xxx ,
Hi im Currently at my daughters till Thursday will be glad to go home to be honest .they done a bbq sunday with good friends and i found it really hard cried a lot .looking forward to some time on my own now .i promised i would visit and i kept my promise .sending hugs x
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