“Food for thought” @tykey, thank you.
That’s right @PollyjaneW, but it’s just a feeling. Even during moments of joy, when we may manage a smile, there is always that underlying sadness of missing our soulmates, as if we are not a “whole person”, experiencing that joy, half of us has gone with them.
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Yeh cos youre so used to sharing your joy/sadness with them and its so hard to not share precious moments with them 
thats what i find anyway xx
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I write to my husband in the notes section on my phone. Crazy but I just pretend
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It’s not crazy , I do exactly the same . Also did it with my dad ( never put dates on though )
I do put dates on now though , it helps me when I write to him 
xx
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No its not crazy.! Counsellors advise you to write to them. Ive got a little journal xx
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Well makes me feel better I am doing something helpful if anyone should think otherwise not that it matters what people think really but so used to being told I am quirky and having to stand up for myself line being told could not take a photo of my husband’s coffin by undertakers and daughter in law. I need photos. I said we are all different so there but still could not get my photo.
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Did you not get a photo ? My daughter in law took a photo although i dont think it was appropriate really although we were able to see the beautiful flowers … funeral director never said anything - he was a nice man though - really lucky to get him x
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My funeral director took a photo for me of the flowers in the coffin leaving the chapel of rest. She was brilliant and so understanding and kind as I’m one of those who needs photos to look back on life’s key moments xx
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You are lucky and I agree it is important to have photos.
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