Hi
I can not give my husband the funeral he wanted, sadly I can not afford it.
He made his will about 10 years ago, and wanted a burial , double grave. Which would have given me comfort to know eventually, I would be with him.
It looks like it will have to be a cremation, if that is so, then I don’t really want the ashes, at home I would find it too upsetting. Can anyone advise me please.
Any ideas would be helpful. Dealing with all this alone, so hope you can help.
Many thanks
Junie
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Hi @Junie1
You are organising your husband’s funeral alone and doing the best you can, good on you.
If he were that serious and focused on a burial then I’m pretty sure he would have organised and paid for a burial plot at the same time he wrote his Will?
The funeral director can keep the ashes until you know what you want to do with them. Perhaps, in time, you may think of a place to have them interred or scattered, then write in your own Will that you would like to go there, too, when you time comes.
Hope this helps.
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Have a google and see if your entitled to any help.
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Than you so much
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Can’t get any help
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We did pre paid funerals and to be honest it would have cost less, to pay on the day
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Really, that’s surprising.
Junie, I am so sorry your husband died. It is a horror story, isn’t it? Funerals are ridiculously expensive and it is hard to justify spending so much money on them. I get it. My husband’s funeral cost $16,000.00 USD! But, I had the money, so he got what he wanted.
But, you are in a pickle. The funeral is a no-go and you don’t want to take the cremains home. I understand. The first time I brought cremains home, it was creepy and sad. But, now I have 4 people and 3 pets here and not bothered by it at all, although this year, they all must be sorted. I can’t leave it to anyone else.
It isn’t as awful as you may think. You can bring the cremains home and wait until you are ready to decide the what and where of it all.
Is there a family member that can hold the box until it is time to bury/spread both of your ashes?
Most cemeteries here have ways to inter cremains that do not require a plot and a grave, such as a mausoleum for urns. I was quoted $12K to bury my parents’ cremains in plots they already owned! Went to another cemetery and for $2, 500 I bought 2 cremains spots. Shop around.
That’s all I’ve got. I hope you can figure this out, it is so awful.
Much love.
Hi @Junie1
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Arranging a funeral can be very overwhelming and added financial pressures will only add to this.
I thought it might be helpful to share these articles from the Sue Ryder website:
Take good care,
Kate
Sue Ryder Online Community team
Hi
I don’t have any family, I am in the Uk,
I will keep thinking.
Thanks
Thanks Kate
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