Has anyone ever experienced a family member taking control of the funeral then completing the funeral and slapping you with the bill?. On paper I am next of kin to my mum. When she received her diagnosis she appointed her sister next of kin medically as I have a small family. My aunty has controlled everything since her death. Arranged all the funeral and all the calls need to be completed, we buried my mum on Friday 18th August. I received a disgusting hand posted letter yesterday(21st August) basically tell me to get stuffed and that I’m being slapped with the bill. Can this actually happen
Whoever signed and placed the purchase order with funeral home, is responsible legally to settle the account
This can ultimately be claimed from the estate of the deceased - but settling the immediate bill is responsibility of the person arranging the funeral as they entered into the contractual relationship
Whilst this is too late for you, this sort of nonsense is one of the reasons why I chose not to have a funeral for my wife, and have written clearly in my will that I dont want one either.
All I did was ring the coop and said please organise a direct cremation, where nobody would attend. I paid them ÂŁ1100 and I heard nothing more from them apart from the date and time of the cremation, and when I could collect her ashes.
She was not abandoned. Because I went and stood outside the crematorium, and then organized a party/wake. Couldnt have been better received by everybody.
But back to this issue! Youve got enough issues on your plate without letting anyone adding to it, and contaminating your life even more.Burn the letter, tell her to get lost. It’ll always be her problem to solve, do not get involved.
He who pays the piper calls the tune, but the other way round in this case.
Same here. I’m still paying the bill. But i think at the time i was pleased someone took charge as i was such a mess i couldn’t deal with it. But i myself don’t want anything like that just a simple one.
I am sorry for your loss I understand your situation My deceased husband’s relatives organised a huge funeral abroad although I told them I didn’t want a costly event particularly as I couldn’t attend Then his sister afterwards asked me to pay for it I managed to pay for burial and funeral directors out of some money in his bank account but I did not pay for the huge after event Did your mum leave a Will who is sorting out her estate Are you doing that as next of kin or a solicitor Normally the funeral is paid from life insurance or the deceased savings if they have any
You can also get a grant from the government if there is no money too Your aunt should have discussed this with you
You normally have to sign to agree to what has been arranged, we did with my son. I also arranged my cousins as her dad couldn’t but we did it in his house and he signed the forms, even though the bills etc were sent to me as I was sorting out her accounts as well. She had enough to pay for funeral out of her estate.
Funeral bills are extortionate. Loads of people attended my husbands but only one of them has.bothered to see how i am. He himself has got cancer and had a stroke. Funeral was in May and I’m still paying for it. I’ve decided to have the cheap one as obviously all my so called friends have disappeared. Wouldn’t want my son to be landed with a big bill.
My hubby had a direct cremation on 8 august…on the day of his cremation the family all went for a meal…kids…grandkids and great grandkids …we took a photo of my hubby and put in on the table and it was lovely…on the 20th august i had a garden party for family friends and neighbours and we celebrated Mikes life…it wasnt a wake…no one was dressed in black…it was a celebration of my hubbys life…it was a great day…x
I did this for my hubby…and had a party in the garden to celebrate his life at a later date…we didnt have a wake…it was a celebration of his life and it was an amzing day…
