My darling husband has been dead for a full month and it’s his funeral tomorrow. To say I’m dreading it is an understatement but after visiting him today to spend my last ever hour alone with him in a room, just us two, I’m also almost glad that the day has arrived. We shouldn’t have to wait this long to lay our loved ones to rest.
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My partner was cremated and had the funeral a week and half after she passed
I sat with her for three days at chapel of rest and found that alone time with her helped me through the funeral
All the best for tomorrow - it’s a difficult day
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Yes I understand and takes me back to my husband’s funeral 13 months ago. I was very nervous and remember I
read out a poem I had written about him. I was determined to do it for him. I will never forget it. He was buried in the church yard and it was icey. We threw carnations down and the wake was in the church where I had put a display of his photos. My son read out the eulogy and I will never forget it. I had arranged the flowers and helped my grandchildren make a basket of flowers each because they were too young to attend. I used the same service we had had for his mother. It was a proper christian service with hymns, prayers, bible readings and address. No one else was invited to say anything in the service so it was kept to just under an hour long. I made a memory book for people to write what they wanted to in it. I had gone to say goodbye alone because I wanted to see him again. 
For you
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I hope today goes well @Juniper19 . I always find the anticipation worse than the event itself. My partner died Jan 29th funeral was on 2 march, it’s a long waiting game. The day itself was tearful but lovely, meeting friends, putting faces to names I had heard over the years, it was good to celebrate him and talk about his times with everyone. We gave him a good day that he would have been proud of. The day after was bad for me, the reality that there’s no coming back from this.
I’m a year on Monday, things do get better, I have a life worth living. There will always be sadness and the grief is a roller coaster but now life is normal with a few tears rather than tears with a bit of normal.
There’s never an easy way, just do what you need today.
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Dear @Juniper19
Love, hugs and prayers for you for today.
Your husband’s love and strength will guide you through.
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@Juniper19 sending you a hug for today.
It will be tough, there is no getting away from that, but there will be laughter and happy moments too.
His love will help you through. Please let us know how it goes.
Xx
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My thoughts are with you and prayers stay strong
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Hello Juniper 19
Thinking of you today, I lost my wife/best friend 3 months today. She passed in hospital after 4 weeks,we all though she would come home. I Sat with her at rest in the funeral parlor, as the hospital passing was so clinical,not their fault but it doesn’t help. People said don’t go see her it will upset you more, but it didn’t it helped to speak to her,and a final kiss. I would recommend anyone do it. I also had her leave from home as a final respect, and the neighbours came to say goodbye.
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Thanks @Hugh2 I sat with him in the chapel of rest yesterday, I talk to him all the time anyway I just wanted it to be me and him alone for one last time. We only moved to our new house - which he loved - in November so we don’t really know the neighbours yet.
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Thinking of you juniper19.were all here for you. Dont bottle up how you feel. In our thoughts
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