Today I’ve had my husband Martin’s funeral. It went exactly how he and myself planned it and everybody said how wonderful it all was and how moving. My problem is ‘what now.’ From before he died I knew I had to keep going upto this point but what do I do now. The church is empty, the cremation is done, the wake is over and everyone has left me and gone back to their lives. I’ve got no idea what to do next. I dont mean tomorrow or next week but right now. I’m completely at a loss. Please help me.
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You will just feel completely flat and lost.I can’t give you advice ,but rest and take care of yourself because you will have things to sort out in the coming weeks.It’s very early days for you and I’m not going to lie it won’t be easy.I hope you have family and friends around you.
I’m alone now as everyone has gone back to their own homes. I feel completely lost and alone and it hurts so much.
Im so sorry that you are all alone, do you have any family you can call to come and stay with you. I had my daughter stay the night but then I was glad to have some time on my own so I could cry when I felt the need.
Take baby steps, sort through any paperwork that you need to do and make sure you eat. We are all here for you.
What area do you live in maybe someone on here may live near you xxx
Friends have offered to come and be with me but although that sounds good they can’t be here forever so I’ve got to cope alone at some point. Maybe I should be alone from now and get used to it. The thing I’m finding really hard now is that I can’t look at Martin’s photo without feeling physically sick. I love him so why can’t I look at him. It wasnt his fault he got sick and died. Has anyone else felt like that?
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