Garden centre

Losing a partner
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Hi had a really bad day yesterday. I drove to our local garden centre which I did on my own last year and the year before to get plants for my garden. Yesterday I pulled into the carpark and just could not get out of the car. I just felt so overwhelmed with grief I was just remembering all the times I had been there with my husband and had to just drive home. I will try again this week and hopefully will feel stronger and get to buy my plants. Its so weird how things just overtake you without any notice :cry:

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I understand this. I cannot go to ASDA or Lidl because I see my husband everywhere. Aldi and Morrisons are not too bad and also the local express Tesco because it was mostly myself shopping there. My friend thinks it is stupid because they are just shops but for people like you and I hold a lot of good memories. Maybe you can try a different garden center if you need plants etc urgently? Hugs from Anna :people_hugging:

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Hi Anna thankyou for understanding. I suppose it does sound stupid to someone who has not lost a husband/ wife but to us its just so hard going to places we went together even just shops hold memories. I will go back to the garden centre this week because I can hear my Ian saying get in there and buy my plants and get my garden looking lovely for the summer . Its hard but i will do it for him .

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I totally get this .Its only 4 weeks i lost my partner there is memories every where lve broken down in aldi and asda and just hate going out anywhere tbh.In the supermarket he would wander off with the basket so im looking for him all the time never get the food i want cos carnt concentrate at all .Im just not coping he was my life now this is just existing.Scared of a future alone just feel empty inside we were together for 17 years .Sorry your all on the same journey. Thanks for listening xxx

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@Hope5 sorry @Annaessex tagged wrong person (fat fingers ) xx

Not stupid at all . I have been in but not on my own & it’s awful !!! I feel like I’m going to go into a meltdown as we always went there and everything I used to buy for Bry seem to jump out at me :sleepy::sleepy: xxx

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@Hope5

I understand . Bry did my head in when we went together, would take me twice as long as he would look at everything & wander off too. I didn’t more time phoning him to see what idle he was in . These are those ‘little things’ that hurt so much :sleepy::broken_heart:

Sending a hug xxx

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Oh my goodness! That has reminded me of our trips to B&Q, Martin would wonder off and I’d find him reading the backs of screws and nail boxes! It drove me mad! I would do anything and stand in there for hours to be able to do that again…with him…:pensive::heart:Xx

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@Dottie72

100% so would I :sleepy::sleepy::sleepy: xxx

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I would also. Life is so lonely without them. I so miss the little things x

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Hi everyone me too i would give anything to see him one last time .Now just waiting to see him in my dreams nothing yet no signs apart from since he died 5 weeks ago i have a tickling feeling on the left side of my face.I lost a partner in 1996 and he appeared to me in dreams a lot and lots of other things too .So ive no dought they are still with us in spirit love and support to you all xx

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