Being such a nice day I decided to eat my lunch in the garden.
As I sat reflecting I remembered every summer all our family and friends sat in our garden enjoying barbeques,sandwiches teas/coffees or just drinks,laughing joking being idiots,with the dogs running around our feet chasing another sausage.
This year I haven’t even got the furniture cushions out of storage except for one chair.
Now my wife and both dogs have gone,most family and friends have disappeared.
So now a different life awaits,although I didn’t get upset I did get sad that life had now gone.
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Same here, and our conservatory where we had our lunch on not-so-nice days, but we could still look at all the roses (150 different varieties, it was our hobby). Now the conservatory is a place to dry my washing because I just can’t bear sitting out there alone.
Maybe next year. Xx
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It was my wife, and most probably yours, that maintained all of the social side of things. Joans family visited our house to see her, nowadays I ring them to see if it’s ok to visit them.
Her friends have all disappeared and the few friends that I have meet me to go for a walk, I have no family.
We need to carry on surviving in the hope that things improve for us.
Best wishes mate.
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Hi.
Yes it was,I used to accompany my wife to all of her company events,her girls all new me and I could do a bit of harmless flirting and tell risqué jokes without causing an ounce of offence,my wife used to just roll her eyes and say behave yourself with a big grin on her face.
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Same here. I cleaned the BBC within an inch of its life early in the year. Sadly it was my husband who was the BBC chef, and I never lit the thing. The chair cushions have stayed in a bedroom cupboard, and the table has been used for various gardening jobs.
I think I have sat and had one coffee in the garden. Its really sad because we spent a lot of time at the weekends just sitting and enjoying a glass of wine or a cold beer (I’m sounding like an alcoholic!) and windind down after a busy day.
Maybe next year …
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Ron my Ray could flirt without even realising he was doing it, I would say to him you have women eating out of your hand and he would say well I don’t know why.
I think my wife put her finger on it,women can tell when a man is harmless but just having fun and a laugh,that certainly was the case with me.
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Definitely Ray would have run a mile if he had been taken seriously. You sound just like him.
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Just had a bit of a laugh,a friend called round for a drink and I was explaining to him this site,he read some of my comments and burst into peals of laughter,I asked what tickled him,he said the comment about “her girls”made her sound like a brothel madame,for clarification she was a call centre manager that was all women🙄
What’s that saying measure twice cut once whatever that means.
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Measure twice cut once so you don’t make a mistake.
Haha Ron, that made me laugh, I am a call centre team leader in the Midlands and I always say me and my girls 
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@bootsie
Same here my husband’s friends have all disappeared since his funeral and I have no family either but I don’t contact his friends as they know where I am. I am fortunate I do have good friends and neighbours.
I am retiring March next year and dreading all the time I will have on my hands
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Ron being nice day. So you decided to eat your lunch in the garden just sat. Reflecting you remember every summer all your family and friends sat in your garden enjoying barbecues teas / coffee or juST. HAVING DRINKS AND LAUGHING JOKING SO YOU WERE BEING IDIOTS SO THE DOGS RUNNING AROUND YOUR FEET THINK YOU SHOULD GET THE CUSHION. AND CHAIR. AND MAKE SOME LUNCH AND MAKE CUP OF TEA OR COFFEE SOME BEER TRY. SIT IN THE GARDEN. YOU MIGHT GET BIT SAD. TRY THINK OF GOOD TIMES YOU HAD
It’s nearly the end of November and I have just been reading this and it is very much how I feel right now. I lost my husband three years ago and I just didn’t feel able to buy new garden furniture. This year I finally did but it’s quite lonely sitting out there at a table all on your own. It’s not that I care what the neighbours think, it’s all that is missing and lost especially now I have had to say goodbye the last of our cats . What hurts most is I’m not even particularly old but my life feels over. I try to be hopeful but I am sure you know it’s not easy. I hope your new life at least turns out to be comfortable.
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