Getting hit by Grief…over a Year Later

Losing a parent
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Firstly, My Dad (who I was also caring for) passed away in November 2022. At that time, neither me nor my mum really truly grieved for him, due too being too busy with the arrangements (funeral, etc) as well as other issues going on with our lives.

Now, on Sunday 25th, I went into hospital (ultimately for an inflammatory infection on my chest/heart. Ever since then though, my mental health has taken a big tumble (to the point I attempted suicide, I’ve talked to people about this) the doctors think it’s to do with my blood sugars spiking low at night causing low moods (I’ve recently had issues sleeping too)

Anyway, off topic…this has made me (and my mum) begun to realize that in all honesty? I really miss my dad and that it’s only now that I’m starring to get emotional about his death, how life is now he’s gone and actually grief for him.

I live with my mum, so im not alone and god bless her, she’s trying to help me best she can. But I just wanted somewhere I can get this off my chest and hopefully start the healing process, emotionally

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Hello @BluGT ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I am so glad that you are now seeking and receiving support to help you through your grief and health. I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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I lost my mum nov 22, the first few weeks i felt like i was on suto pilot. Sorting her bungalow out her funeral bills etc etc… so now over a year later it keeps hitting me like a brick, how much i miss her and love her, its awful and so unexpected, i guess i didnt understand grief very well, but at the moment i feel dreadful, i hope it will get easier. Give yourself time is the best advice i have had, and be gentle with yourself. Take care x