Well today I finally did it I got in touch with a solicitor to see if I can get justice for my dear Jim
He went into hospital in July for a op and was supposed to make a full recovery all was well for 2 days I wasn’t allowed to visit but did talk on phone all the time and he seemed to be doing well. Then a got a call to say he had got a blockage and would have to go back to theater and have another op ,but he did not have a blockage so op was not necessary but because of this he got sepsis which then caused phenomenon followed by kidney failure , heart failure low blood pressure . He was a a ventilator for 3 weeks in-between this time he was also moved to a different hospital because they needed the icu bed then on August 12 I got a call to go to hospital where there said he would not survive and they turned machine off I had to stand and watch my darling take his last breath. I will never get over this ordeal and I feel he was murdered I hate the hospital and want justice for Jim . My life will never be the same again all because of that hospital I think that when you get to a certain age no one cares about you.
Hello, how horrible sad and heartbreaking to read your post. We all have to do what we think is best and I fully understand the plain you are suffering. You are right that you will never get over the horrendous way your Jim died. My heart goes out to you and I want to send you love, blessings and big hugs to help you get through this horrible time. Please take care of yourself and take each step slowly so you understand exactly what is happening. My thoughts are with you on your journey. S xx
I know exactly how you feel. My husband passed with locally advanced stage 3 pancreatic cancer in 2018.
He spent weeks in a Manchester hospital after becoming delerious at home. It was a filthy place with a tablet left under his bed for a whole week showing no cleaning was done. I was left to clean him up after bouts of diarrhoea and pads and uneaten food were left in his room overnight.
The ward was devoid of doctors whenever I needed help and I could not arrange a meeting. It was devastating that when he was discharged they had written bilary SEPSISon his discharge note! I was not aware he had developed any infection and I will never forgive them for the way he was admitted to a women’s ward in a side room. No doctors with any knowledge of pancreatic cancer were available.( his pancreatic surgeon and nurse were both on holiday at the same time.)
I was too devastated to make a complaint within the time limits as my mind was just unable to focus after his death. I admire you for your courage in making your complaint. The NHS is not all it is cracked up to be especially where cancer is concerned.
My darling husband passed away at home 7 months ago with cancer .I’m so hurt and angered about the way he was treated and the treatment he endured it eats away at me every day. It took me two days to get him out of hospital after they told him all on his own there was nothing more they could do. Those 2 days were taken from us because he passed away a few days later when he did finally came home .Don’t understand any part of the NHS always complaining about bed blocking in the wards when i wanted my husband home to the people who loved him and cared about him .Its finally helped me to realise I’m not on my own feeling unsatisfied about the NHS cancer care.
So sorry to hear your story which is similar to mine. My husband was told he was dying when I was not present too
He phoned me from the hospital heartbroken. They denied it all.
I am so angry at the way he was treated. They were useless.
I believe that we are not alone with the way the NHS treats people who are dying there is no respect any more for those who are told they don’t have long to live and for the poor family’s who just want to be with them after they have received the most devastating news .Bless you all who have gone through this stay as strong as you can…