What do you do with all the ‘stuff’. I live in a four bedroom house. It is full of things. I do not intend to downsize. This house is adapted to my daughter’s needs and I love it anyway. My husband liked DIY and technology. There are tools and gadgets everywhere, most of which I will never use. It isn’t that I need the space, if I get rid of things I will still have cupboards, but they will be empty cupboards. But what is the point of keeping things I will never use, I don’t even know what most of the things are for. I can send his clothes to a charity shop, but what do you do with boxes of cables and plugs, trays of filler and decorator’s caulk, sealants and silicone. Do I just leave them for my son to dispose of when my time comes? I love gardening, but a pick axe and a mattock are not going to be useful, exterior ladders and roof attachments?
What does everyone else do with this kind of thing? I do not have nephews that would want them and I don’t want to invite strangers to my house in order to sell them. Putting them on Ebay would be too much like hard work.
Oh, I’m there with you…a garage full of them, and tons more in the house. I’m taking all the cables, hundreds of batteries, and mystifying electrical stuff to the local tip bit by bit, and the computer cables to a climate shop that recycles them. I got a skip for the dried-up paint cans, bits of wood, wrecked things he always meant to repair, and have offered the gardening stuff I can’t use to the local gardener. I can’t pretend it wasn’t painful (I cried buckets after the skip went, even though most of the items in it were broken household stuff), but the house is a lot clearer, though I still have to remove an entire model railway layout from the spare bedroom walls! Bless him. Can’t face the garage yet, as it was his ‘man shed’.
Yes! I forgot about the bits of wood, dried up paint tins, and an old workbench. I will have to make a start soon. Ordnance Survey maps and civil engineering magazines decades old. The stuff is endless. I feel a skip coming on!
Only when you’re ready, @Willow112 ; I waited a few months before I could do it. But mostly it was just ‘stuff’ and nothing personal; I still have his coats hanging by the door, his sweaters in the drawers. It was good to get it done, but hard, too, so only do it when you feel you can face it. Good luck!
My husband was a builder and his garage was full of stuff and tools i will never use. A lot of it i gave given to men in sheds, they are all over the country, just Google it, there is also a charity which gives to tools etc to third world countries
Thank you, I will do that. It would be a shame to take them to the tip if they will be of use to someone. I just don’t want them to sit around becoming useless. Xx
I also have sheds full of stuff. My husband loved to buy stuff - and I have sheds full of god knows what. I’ll get around to sorting it eventually I’m sure, but at the moment me and my kids find it funny when I find something that I don’t know what it is and we spend some time just marvelling at the load of crap my husband bought.
It’s nice to laugh and take the mick out of him as if he was still here. He would be glad we were doing that rather than crying.
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I have been ebaying, donating or throwing away things, i am saving any cash i make to buy a garden water feature as my memorialcfor David. Money is short for me so i think this is a good idea and David would approve.