Its been 17 weeks on Saturday for me too
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@2supersnails
Only time will tell you what you want to do. How lucky to have been together 50 years. I wish with all my heart I could’ve had that with John. He was taken much too soon but like I’ve said I’m glad it was him first n not me. I wouldn’t want the love of my life to feel as I do…I loved him too much. So it’s day by day n hopefully it get easier as people have said it does but that’s down to the individual…
John would be telling me to live my life but at this very moment I don’t feel that way…maybe tomorrow I will…
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Thats a long time for PM my wife had one it took 8 weeks it’s the waiting that gets depressing as if you don’t have enough other worries.
It was only this long as he had asbestosis leading to lung cancer and it had to be ascertained if he also had mesothelioma and to confirm the cause of death which was industrial disease
I understand exactly what you mean. Martin was diagnosed with prostate cancer in January 22. He had chemo which worked brilliantly. Then it came back worse than ever. He was given an all singing all dancing wonder drug that we had to get government funding for. It didn’t work and we were told in May 24 there was no more they could do. He died at home with me holding him on 20th August. I’m still as upset now as I was then. Nothing makes sense anymore. He was the other half of me and so I’m only half living now.
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There are no tools. You do the best you can to get through each day. Nothing will ever be the same again since the loss of your special person.
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Allan went into hospital on 14th August to have a cyst removed from his thyroid. Instead of a cyst they found Stage 4 aniplastic thyroid cancer and he died in a hospice on 30th August with me and our daughter and son with him. Just four months before he’d cycled in a 70 mile race. Life will never be the same again without him. We married at 17 and 18 and were together for 54 years.
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Don’t try to ‘get through’ -treasure the love - that’s why
grief is so strong - hold it close. It’s a journey of change.
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Arti,
That is so true it does not make this journey any easier but clearly explains why it’s so so true.
Love did come first and I enjoyed evry second of it.
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Anyone finding bank holidays utterly unbearable? I feel so alone.
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@Arti
Yep I understand. Sometimes though it’s good to be alone with your thoughts but equally good to have people around sometimes…
I don’t think anything suits me right now.
Try n get out a bit if you can it might help…
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Hi Arti
Luckily i work Bank Holidays, but get what you mean. Coming home from work on a Friday afternoon is always bad. It used to be my happy time, a full weekend and Friday afternoon with my wife Jacquie. I always looked forward to it, our special time, but nowcit us just a journey home in tears for what should have been.
I didn’t even realise it was a bank holiday, every day is the same all rolled into one.
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I am more aware that friends/neighbours who’ve been very supportive, are away or with family, so I don’t like calling on them so much.
Yes I agree, I dont like bothering anyone, everyone I know is still with partners.
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