@Johnr
Its the little things that floor you the most.
Decided to get up this morning and tackle the kitchen cupboards.
Going well until i hit the medicine box where i found Allan’s indigestion tablets which it turns out wasnt indigestion at all but pancreatic cancer which he died of in June 2024-11 weeks after the indigestion started!!
It made me so sad to think ,this time ladt year he was still here.
Just been clearing out a chest of drawers so I can get rid of it.
Found numerous towels I didn’t know we had, which are now folded up on a bed so my daughter in law can sort which are the best to keep. However, i also found one of her spare toothbrushes. I had to stop then.
It’s been an horrendous day for me. Been sobbing since I came back from the shop:cry:
It is so hard, I lost my wife a year ago this month, With a friends help I have finally managed to go through her clothes. I could not have done it by myself. The female friend was very good, at one point she said Rob go and make the Tea, ( It was getting to me ) as I am bringing the tea into the bedroom, she says no the lounge follows me in and brings out a couple of cakes. 15 minutes later we are back doing the clothes, which she has now to the charity shops. I don’t think I could have done that. I have kept a few things. Why, don’t ask.
I still have my husband’s toothbrush sitting in the glass with mine in the bathroom 4 years later. Shopping for one is something I will never get used too, its all in quantities for couples. I never buy liver or pork pies anymore, 2 of his favourites.
I always bought Charlie Bigham Shepherds Pie for 2. After she passed, I cooked the last one in the freezer which was way too much for me. I went to shops the next day and managed to get some for 1. That really set me off in the shop, knowing that any food I buy now is going to be just for me.
It was a tupperware cupboard that set me off a few weeks ago. My husband used to use lots of really small plastic tubs for different sauces when he was on night shift and just the sight of them made me cry.
I’m so sorry for you John in the loss of your wife and love of so many years. My husband died 4 years ago gone February and the other night I was thinking about how lovely it used to be when I went downstairs after a shower and he would bring me a cup of tea! Something so simple, but so appreciated and it’s often the little things we miss the most.
I agree. 57 i think I’ve had the best years 33 years of marriage. I was lucky in that just wish i had a few more.
Pork pies and mushy peas a simple but good meal. Don’t forget the mint sauce.
@JaneyS @Rob05
It’s so strange what can set us off isn’t it.?
My John loved pork pies and today I bought one from his favourite place but didn’t feel upset to be honest.
When my eight year old grand daughter came this afternoon she was thrilled with the pork pie n asked if it was from John…then I had to stop myself from crying as I didn’t want to upset her
I did laugh though because I bought some tripe for me n my youngest son and John absolutely hated the stuff and I could just see his face…
I FaceTimed my son and family earlier. My two year old grandson kept saying ‘where’s nanny’. I struggled to keep my tears in, but let them flow when we finished.
@Johnr
That’s so hard especially with a two year old…Being so little they don’t understand thank goodness. The pain we have is ours and ours alone…but we will get there I’m sure…
His 7 year old sister does understand that nanny is now in heaven.
It was so painful at the funeral when I sat between my 7 year old granddaughter and my 24 year old granddaughter, all of us crying our eyes out.
My wife had a proper gluten allergy, and i find myself heading off down the free from section every time i go shopping.
It is hard to get out of the habit after 22 years, but it sets me off every time i do it.
I hate shopping for just me, cooking for just me, making a hot drink for just me.
I never thought that i would lose her at just 62. We had made so many plans. I was looking forward to us spending more time together once i had retired. I just feel so lost without her. She was so kind, funny and unassuming and i am devastated at having to live without her.
Yes you were lucky to have 60 years, but it is still a huge loss, no matter how long you have been with someone. It’s the relationship between you that matters.
Being together long enough to be able to finish each others sentences, to laugh together at only something you get as a couple, to know when they are hurting without having to ask, and to be so comfortable in each others company, that you can even be happy sitting in silence.
There are lots of things i miss, but just a good honest chat about nothing in particular is one of the things i miss the most.
I expect like you, my wife was my rock, my best friend and my hero. I hate being without her.
