@jules1950 I’ve wondered about the punch bag. Especially a couple of days ago coming back from my first ‘alone’ holiday. The stupid sat nav got me lost because of road works, and i had the journey from hell coming home. I really wanted to ball my eyes out and punch something. Maybe it would help 
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I have worked for a coach company holidays for 32 years and I am a duty manager of one of their hotels in Devon , I lost my husband 11 weeks ago suddenly to heart attack, I am age 56 I am back in work now and I am finding it very difficult checking “couples “ in for holidays especially how shall I put it “the ones of retirement age who still have their husband with them and moan about their room etc “! And I would love to say least you still get the chance to go on holiday with your husband mine didn’t even get to retirement age ! He was going to be 66 in February and retire then ! Sadly over the years I have seen couples return on their own with out a partner some “deal “ With it others “expect the same as if their partner was alive like the same “double room etc “ we have 20 single rooms that carry no supplement like other places do ! If a room has a single bed and it meant for one person then a single supplement should not be charged , if the room is meant for two people then the room will be charged for two people , sadly the single rooms are always taken first , I never thought I would now be in the same position age 56 and also be on the receiving end of customers and guests ! No one realises I am a widow when the are checking in from the coach to hotel x
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My husband was a coach driver, and this week, 3 years after losing him, I taking my first holiday alone. Ironically the coach firm I went with was the last one he drove for, before he he had to give up his PSV licence due to his health.
I’m in Weston-super-Mare, a place we visited on our honeymoon. I do have a double room, no single ones left. But its been okay, there has been several other widows and widowers as well as couples.
I now know I can do this again. Doug was older than me and had already retired, he died before I retired and that was hard not being able to spend our retirement together. We were so looking forward to cheaper holidays in term time, which we could never do before as I worked in a school.
Debbie x
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The guilt you feel after shouting at your loved one for leaving you knowing full well they would not have left us. I’m going to join a gym as I think this will help me get rid of my times of anger. I just want him back so much it hurts. Of course I know this will never happen but I want it so badly. My love for Kev will never die he was the love of my life 
. Just hope in time I can feel peaceful again inside. I wish all of you the very best going through this vile journey we are all travelling along. Xxx
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I took up swimming, had not swam for 20 years! Now i can do 20 lengths, it is the only thing that stops my mind racing as i am concentrating on my breathing and stroke technique , it is very helpful. X
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Debbie57
Glad you are doing the holiday on your own. Good for you.
I did and isn’t as good as being with my husband but better than being at home all the time.
I did have a dance.
Not for long but so what?
What is the weather like. It is nice here today. Just fell over in the garden weeding so sitting down. At least not on concrete.
Charlie9
I agree but can’t get to a place where can do swimming without too crowded
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Jane15
Some people expect to descend on me when they know I have four bedrooms three with beds in for when grandkids stay over. But I can’t cope with it. I just keep the rooms ready for them not have to wash and change sheets.
I am not running a guest house although always thought would if ever my husband died. But I am too old now. No energy.
Nick was 9 years older than me he was 65 he job coached adults with learning disabilities he was a builder by trade and some of the job coaching involved physical work with challenging adults he was so ready to retire just months away , I have worked with coach drivers for 32 years and many different companies as our coach holiday company we don’t actually own the coaches , western is not far from us in Torquay , I have seen over the years not many “young “ coach drivers the young ones don’t want to do it , it’s not just driving they are “hosts “as well sadly many coach drivers are still working well beyond retirement , at the moment right now I am on hol with my son at Hampton Court for the garden festival should of been with my husband my son has come with me , it’s difficult as I was here two years previous with my husband .
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I get that I am from Liverpool my father died 8 years ago so my mother is on her own now she has two spare rooms with beds she says she can cope with one extra person there but not more , we we went to visit myself and hubby would stay at my brothers and my son , her grandson who is 28 would stay with her she enjoyed the company but again she said she can’t be changing all beds etc she is 87 and has osteoporosis now
Same here I thought I was robbed being a widow at 56 and I realise there are “younger “ ones on here
Yes depends how fit you are. I am not able to cope
with extra work with some expectations people have. Just sit back and expect it all on a plate. I think I should be one doing that now.
I am imagining I am on holiday at home when the sun comes out. And it is not too hot.
Especially if I can get the garden looking nice.
There are some nice places nearby.
At the moment it feels all to do.
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