People don’t get it they will never get it unless they live it.
Nobody understands grief unless you have lost someone so important that meant the whole world to you.
You can be going about your day minding your own business, working, making dinner, washing dishes and then all of a sudden it hits you like a bolt of lightning that they are never coming back.
Unless you have that feeling you cannot sympathise with somebody who is going through grief because you will never know what it’s like to have a perfect life one day and the next day have everything taken away from you.
People who go through grief will never be the same again, they will never be the person that they were before their loved one passed away. They have to learn to live with that. It’s a nightmare to have to learn to live with losing someone you loved so much.
So when we’re not ok in three, four, five months or a year give us grace we deserve at least that.
Alone, I am sorry that you are having such a tough time. I lost my wife of 52 years, one year ago. I still miss her and will always love her. I cry less now, I still have sad times but not so much, I can look at things and places that we both loved and remember happy times, sometimes with a silent tear but pleased to do it. As you know the grief comes in waves, I hope you are due an upturn in your feelings soon.
Rob05
Thank you for your kind response.
So sorry for the loss of your dear wife of 52 years. I was only fortunate to have the love of my life for 10 years. It’s been 4 years and three months now since he died, and it still hurts as bad as if it were yesterday. The tears are less, but I still cry and it doesn’t take much to set me off. I think about him every day, look at his photos. talk to him, and tell him off for leaving me. Yes, I also think of the happy times we shared and thank him for the years we spent together.
Take care.
I agree w/ everything you wrote. It’s hard for people to get it till they’ve gone through it. It’s so life altering.