We are both physically I’ll with respiratory virus.we have had it since Xmas .could it be bereavement?I am concerned would be grateful for any advice .annette
Dear Annette,
Welcome to the Sue Ryder Online Community. I’m sorry to hear you and your granddaughter are poorly. Have you visited your GP? If you have a respiratory tract infection you need medical treatment, so I would encourage you to consult your GP as soon as possible and follow the course of treatment they recommend.
Have you recently lost a loved one? Grief can be very stressful and exhausting, and it has been proved that can impact your physical health and weaken your immune system, so it is very important that you and your granddaughter take care of yourselves. If you’re recently bereaved, our online community can be very helpful - our users are very supportive and understand what it is like to lose a loved one.
If there is anything else I can help with, or you have any questions about using this site, just let me know.
Best wishes,
Irene
Thanks Irene we have both visited the doctor.but we each seem unable to rid ourselves of it.I really believe it is bereavement based.I am still very very upset about my daughter and cry a lot.my granddaughter as just started work her first job.she had to put her university place on hold for this year.I worry and wonder if she’s fit enough to do the work.thankyou for your concern .I appreciate it very much.Annette.
Dear Annette,
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. You and your granddaughter must miss her so very much, and it is understandable that you are both struggling.
Have you tried to access support services in your area? You could get in touch with Cruse Bereavement, who offer a helpline, email support, face-to-face support with a trained volunteer and local support groups: 0808 808 1677, http://www.cruse.org.uk. You could also try The Compassionate Friends, an organisation that supports people who have lost a child - they offer online support, a telephone helpline (0345 123 2304), online support and local support groups: https://www.tcf.org.uk/
Your granddaughter could also benefit from counseling and bereavement support. She could try to get in touch with Child Bereavement UK, who helps bereaved young people. She can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40. Their website is http://childbereavementuk.org/young-people/
On our online community, we have other users here who have lost a daughter and will understand some of what you are feeling. Hopefully, you will get some supportive replies soon, but while you wait, you may find it helpful to read and reply to some conversations between others who have lost a daughter, for example:
https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-death-loved-one/grieving-loss-my-daughter
I hope this helps. Please let me know how everything goes,
Best wishes,
Irene