I am a grandmother who has lost an adult grandson. It was just over a year ago so the first anniversary has just passed. I have never felt grief like it. Apart from the pain of grieving , as the mother of the grieving mother i am also helping her and the rest of the family through this terrible time. Having this service to help a vital part of the grieving process as it helps to hear from other people who are going through it also. Sometimes its so very hard to cope and be brave.
Hi @Kim66 ,
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community 
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Take good care,
Alex
I cannot compare with losing an adult grandchild, but we lost a 2 months old baby grandson, 8 years ago. He was a twin, and his ((non identical) twin survived . It literally felt like my heart had been ripped out, as I not only lost a grandson but also could not console my child who had lost her child. To make it worse, he died on my birthday. That makes my birthday very difficult .
I lost my husband (aged 61) 3 months ago, very suddenly. However I can’t really compare the way I felt about each. My grief was different , one for for a life that never had a chance, one for a life which should have been longer. Grief is horrible. Children shouldn’t die and neither should “fit and healthy” 61 year olds 
I am so sorry for your losses. I agree about grief feeling different. I lost both of my parents in my thirties and it felt totally different. They had both been very ill but my grandsons death was sudden. My brain thinks that there should be an order with death and my grandson put that order out totally. I am so sorry for the death on your birthday , that must be terrible for you. And yes, my heart was ripped out and shattered in a million pieces. Life will never be the same again.
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