Greatful

I am so grateful for that I tuned into the Lorraine show yesterday on ITV when Lisa Riley talked about her podcast interview i listened to her interview and automatically could connect to what she was saying about her grief tuning into the podcast resulted in being directed me to Sue Ryder forum.

Although I have just started bereavement councelling I was searching for a support forum that I where when I am feeling like how I was today I can connect with others who are or have been or going through the grieving process that will never go away people that will understand my my pain and not judge me.

Thank you everyone

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Hi Cpmb
You have found the right place for people who understand how you feel. You are supported and can offer support as time goes on. Every person here gets that there is no time limit on grief because they are all grieving and they understand how a single word can cause more sadness.
You will find you are very much understood here

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Hi Tillwemeetagain

I love your username ID it is so comforting

Thank you for your response and making me feel so welcomed in this forum I am so greatful for the support advice and encouragement from others who truly understand the grieving process and the effects it has on us and to hear learn and share the different coping mechanisms that we use to get through each day.

Hi cpmb
Thankyou
Only those that have lived it truly get it. There are different levels of grief for me anyway depending on the person that has past. My mums I thought was the hardest to bear at the time. But this the loss of your other half is not or it doesnt seem to have any let up. Good moments do happen but life is forever changed. Who do you tell everything you feel now who makes you feel protected. So much lost. Moving forward whilst glued to the now.
Its a madness for sure. But there is some light in the darkness it just takes a lot to reach it

Hi Tillwemeetagain

Yes life has and will never be the same which I am experiencing now it horrible.

Is it normal to switch between the different stages of greif throughout this journey sometimes there are days I am happy days I am tearful and crying non stop sometimes angry and frustrated however never in denial but keep asking the question “why”

Hi Cpmb
I know they say there are stages but I dont think there is so much. If people fail to follow the stages they think somethings not right. I think grief is a process we have to come to terms with as being part of our lives always.
Normal days happen more often over time but something comes along and we go back to square one.
It feels like a madness at times. All we can do is accept it and go with what the day brings and be hopefull for happier times.

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Hi Tillwemeetagain

Thank you for answering my question I will just go with the day and what comes with it. I keep saying to people I am taking it “One day one hour one minute one second at a time” whenever people ask me “how are you” which upsets me their is always this vacant look on their face or they go silent or dismiss what I have just said hey we don’t know what we will be felling from one minute to the next.

Hi cpmb
Yep you are doing all you can by how you feel and what is right for you.
I always answer with, well I am still breathing, this to draws a blank stare which amuses me because the people that ask often couldnt cope with the real answer. At least now the sympathy head tilt and small screwed up face has stopped when they approach.:blush:. Although most of the time I avoid them myself as I cant be bothered with it all.
I think one day I might reply with how the hell do you think I am, that might be intersting.
I think they just want to here yeah I am okay so anything else just confuses them :blush:

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Hi Tillwemeetagain

Good on you with the way you stop people like this to shut their mouth as you said they could not handle it if you were to tell them how you really felling.

Keep doing what helps you to go through your personal individual greif they will never understand until it happens to them

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Hi cpmb
This is very true, sadly, I wouldnt wish this on anyone.
Hopeing today brings us all more sunshine than clouds😊

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