Afternoon everybody, New to this site. Recently lost my husband of almost 40 years. I’ve never lived alone and I hate it.
I break down often, especially when things go wrong and I don’t know what to do.
I have a son who lives locally. But he has his own family. I see them often, but it’s coming home to an empty house.
Sitting here every evening in silence. I go to bed early most nights to avoid it.
I’m slightly disabled, using crutches. So not very mobile.
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I’m the same,never lived on my own before.Peter died last May after 38 years together.I don’t think I will ever get used to it I’m constantly worried something will go wrong I can’t deal with I don’t have kids or close family it’s a scary place to be.Besides missing him terribly.
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Yeh im totally with you there @LyndaK and @WelshHeather it really is awful this lonely life isnt it … i hate every minute of it and im same never lived alone either … came from a big family , had 3 kids but they are grown up now with families of their own and they dont live that near me either ! Its just awful … i just want to find some happiness … i know my husband wouldnt want me to be sad and to enjoy life but its so hard to achieve isnt it ? It was easy when he was here but thats because he was here with me every step of the way. Come rain or shine xx
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I am the same never lived on my own when wife passed away it just took the life out of me just no reason to go on
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I guess it’s easy for me than you ,being an only child and not having kids I’m used to been quiet and can amuse myself.However I miss Peter terribly I don’t think I will ever get used to life without him he was my world.
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Lyndak all my kids have all married left home so we both on same boat just hope we both find better things whatever it me
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I’m the same - we were married for 40 years, his death was sudden and unexpected. I use two crutches because I have got MS and it really gets me down on top of the awfulness of losing my darling husband. I am so jealous when people say they have been for a walk, or walked the dog - don’t get me wrong, I’m glad for them in the sense that it helps with the grieving process but I just wish I could do the same. Thankfully I can drive in fact I drove over to a park that we used to go to sometimes, me hobbling along on my crutches but I couldn’t get out of the car for crying, I quickly realised it was a terrible idea and drove home.
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Aw … you go out in the car and just drive around to a nice beauty spot or something ? Bless you. Just does you good to get out of house doesnt it ? Xx
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@Deb5 well the park is near to the shop I needed to go to in all honesty. I’m lucky enough to have very supportive friends and family so I get out of the house every day I couldn’t stand staying in all day!
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Not nice living alone is it , for me cope ok for few days then hit a wall find myself in bits , I’m fortunate to have both my sons close by I’m 61 with no health issues so able to get out when needed that helps 
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No its pretty rubbish isnt it … i hate it … good job i have some nice friends. My kids dont live nearby and frankly they been flipping awful since their dad passed away 
x
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Have they that’s difficult for you , glad you have good friends , I’m also lucky to have fantastic friends
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So sorry for your loss. I’ve never lived alone either, and have no family. It’s so scary when things go wrong (and I’ve had a ton of those since my partner died). I put the tv on in the evening, just for the background sound, which does help a bit.
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Catrin1 me the same house so quiet boys all grown up have own married live the pain unbearable
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@Gibbo literally just thinking this right now. I have had lots of visitors this week but my God the weekends are a trial! It’s so quiet and there’s only so much radio you can listen to. I agree the pain is unbearable.
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