I recently lost my Auntie, she was an amazing individual, young and loved by everyone.
I think some of my grief is guilt because i haven’t seen her for years as I’ve been dealing with my own life issues with illness etc. am i allowed to grieve for someone that i haven’t seen for so many years. My Auntie was a lovely person, she made my 18th special, our nights out were great, we loved our nights in Butlins and i lived with her when i had nowhere to live… Anyway how do i accept it that she’s gone and how do i get rid of this guilt that i shouldn’t be grieving.
Hi @Sma19 . I think you might find that there are very very few of us who don’t carry some guilt into this journey. Remember we are all only human with failings. I find it very helpful to just sit quietly in the evening with my thoughts, and talk to my late wife (of 50 years). We talk (among lots of other things, like happy memories) about the things we both did which might have been done better, and forgive each other with understanding and kindness. Keep doing it, and the guilt gradually eases and goes away.
Be kind and gentle with yourself, we all need that, remember we are only human and born with lots of traits, both good and bad.